at this grown age when ppl show signs of hidden animosity or weird energy, i just remove myself. i’m not trying to understand you & i’m not trying to make it make sense.
Hi I am in your city I'm on the other side of town and I have 45 minutes of free time and we're not very close friends and I'm generally kind of unpleasant to be around we have GOT to hang out are you free right now
Something that consistently radicalizes me is observing ppl’s level of “willingness” vs what I’m willing to do. In many such cases, the difference is always stark.
Cutting them off for being a bad friend and watching them suddenly make up a million reasons to dislike you so they can act like they had an excuse for treating you terribly and pretend they’re the one who cut YOU off
I used to think I cut people off too fast & don’t give enough grace so I changed that for a little while because I want everyone to have rooom to be human. Research has shown that NOPE, it really is true that the more chances you give people the worst they treat you.