I am very bothered by the attacks On Here against mothers who defended motherhood today.
Two men purchasing a baby via surrogacy is a very specific and new phenomenon that only 6 or so countries in the world permit, plus some states in the US.
Since it erases motherhood completely, mothers have strong feelings about it.
I am one.
We do not doubt their capacity to love a child or their ability to be good fathers. But as in a marriage, love alone is not enough to raise a child.
If a child can be created via surrogacy for the purpose of two men becoming fathers, that means the mother who carried and gave birth to that baby is disposable in the child’s life.
And, taking it one step further, if an intentionally motherless household is just the same as a nuclear household, that means mothers are optional.
Mothers are neither disposable nor optional. And we will not be silent as we are being erased.
Optimal, healthy human childhood development requires both a mother and father. There is evidence to support this. For example, children of same sex couples do not have the same outcomes as children of married opposite sex couples (eg high school graduation rates).
Somehow, we agree that fatherlessness is one of the largest indicators of whether a child will achieve positive outcomes, but when it comes to two mothers raising a child without a father, we suspend all logic in that context lest we be accused of bigotry. Just like mothers are not optional, neither are fathers.
Somehow, we agree that men and women are different, and men can’t become women, but when we are talking about gay men, fathers can become stand ins for mothers? No. Fathers and mothers contribute differently to a child’s upbringing. Both are needed. These abilities are complementary and not interchangeable. “Any two” parents will not do.
Further, humans have an innate need to know and bond to the mother and father who created them. You see evidence of this in adopted adults who spend years searching for their birth parents. It is driven by a primal longing to know oneself. Creating a motherless child leaves a hole in the child’s identity, forever.
We are not talking today about same sex couples who adopt a child that would be worse off but for the adoption into a loving home. I personally would rather see a baby whose mother is unable to care for him adopted by someone who can, gay or straight.
We are talking about something much more specific: intentionally creating a motherless child.
In the case of the former example, the child’s best interest is at the center of the analysis. In the case of the latter, it is the adult’s desire that takes center stage, to the detriment of the child.
That is not parenting.
That is, in fact, the opposite of parenting.
It is something else entirely.
cc @megbasham@Katy_Faust@conservmillen@BillboardChris@DefiyantlyFree
We think of this evil as Marxism. In reality, Marxism is nothing more or less than the current instantiation of a much more ancient evil: possession by the envious and hateful spirit that drove Cain to murder his brother Abel.
The great book of Genesis thus portrays mankind as riven by an eternal fratricidal conflict.
Those who reject genuine sacrifice become embittered by their subsequent failure ("rejection by God").
Instead of repenting and changing, they turn to revenge.
And who do they target? Those who strive to do well and offer what is best.
I can't believe how much wisdom the author of Genesis 4 compressed into that story's few sentences. You might even come to believe that God Himself had a hand in it.
Truly: it's uncanny. The first two human beings born into history are, respectively, a good, honest productive man and his brother, who allows himself to be consumed by resentment and the desire to destroy.
Communism, in a nutshell.
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