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[Bojan Tunguz @tunguz]

#TouchingGrass

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Accomplishments in life that go unnoticed:
1. Building a healthy relationship.
2. Quitting something that crushes your soul.
3. Divorcing when it’s time to choose yourself.
4. Switching careers to something you love.
5. Finding friends who become chosen family.
6. Breaking the trauma cycle.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

The Body Keeps Score.

Here's What That Means:

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

You can’t love someone out of their trauma. You can’t push someone enough to heal. You can’t rescue someone from their own choices. The instinct to view people as self improvement projects usually comes from having to ‘fix’ a parent— marriage issues, financial issues, become their therapist etc.

[𝐊𝐄𝐕 🇩🇴 @kevormez]

SELENA GOMEZ DID A SURPRISE APPEARANCE AT THE #MetGala WTF

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

We tell ourselves white lies.

Healing means getting real with ourselves.

Read these (only) if you're ready....

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

You're Practicing Setting Boundaries..

Here's What To Expect:

[No BS Therapist @TweetATherapist]

Guilt: “I fucked up”

Shame: “I’m fucked up”

Blame: “You fucked up”

Dialectic: “I can fuck up and still be a good person”

Empathy: “Everyone fucks up sometimes”

Compassion: “Making mistakes can be fucking hard”

Acceptance: “Mistakes are how I learn and grow”

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Having an affair, betraying someone, or living in a constant state of hiding something can only be done by someone in a deeply conflicted relationship with themselves. The chronic stress on your body from getting your story straight, and making sure you don’t get caught is self imposed harm. Heal and learn to love yourself so you don’t bring other people in to your own internal war. Heal and learn to love yourself so your body can know the health and peace that only comes from transparency.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

The best decision doesn't always feel like the best decision.

Especially at first.

Don't let temporary emotion create an impulsive choice to go back on your word to yourself.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

“If they wanted to they would” isn’t always true.

Lots of people want things.

They just lack the knowledge, the communication skills, and the self trust to follow through.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Defensiveness is the number one cause of disconnection in relationships.

It keeps us feeling stuck and unheard.

How To Unlearn Being Defensive:

[Dr. Bob Beare @DrBobBeare]

Most people don’t know what trauma is.

Let alone what recovery looks like.

Here we go:

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

When’s the last time you remember feeling at peace?

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

For a long time I thought people pleasing and putting others before myself made me a good person. It look me a while to see there were elements of control and manipulation behind it. I wasn't doing it because I wanted to, I was doing it because I didn't want to deal with my own guilt of disappointing someone. And I couldn't deal with anyone having a negative perception of me.

It was self centered, but I was telling myself it was for other people.

It's a gift to wake up.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

There are 6 stages everyone goes through as they establish a secure, healthy relationship.

If you're in one of these stages, you're on the right path, and probably don't know it.

Which stage are you in:

[Andrew Tate @Cobratate]

Women:

You dont get married for instagram.

You dont get married to spend money.

You dont get married to annoy your ex.

You dont get married for fun, or freedom.

You get married to BELONG to and DEDICATE yourself to your man.

Are you really ready?

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Your partner goes into emotional reactivity. Next, you become reactive and a cycle begins where you say and do things you regret.

Few people know how to fight.

How To Fight In A Healthy Way (A Complete Guide):

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Dissociation happens when we lose track of time, our voice goes monotone, and we “space out.”

We’re physically present but mentally gone.

HERE’S WHY: