๐ One of my most popular articles was born in a rather unexpected way.
I have a weekly massage appointment - the price I pay for living with a hypervigilant nervous system.
At some point, I donโt even remember how, my massage therapist brought up masochism. He started joking about how absurd it was that someone could be aroused by getting pushed in public transport or might even orgasm if someone accidentally stepped on their foot.
I stayed quiet. He has no idea about my online domination career. As far as he knows, Iโm still working in marketing and design.
But that conversation stayed with me. I realized that if I accidentally hit someone, I donโt feel any sexual arousal whatsoever - despite being a sexual sadist.
Thatโs when it clicked - pain was never the point.