As a boy or a man, normalise never degrading a lady or a woman with words. Which one is "this girl look like who go sabi open leg oh"? Insults like this should stop please...
The danger of self perfection is never realising when you get into the extremist zone, hurting the ones close to you. Finding a balance in nature sometimes gets very hard. You try one thing and another. The desire to be flexible.
Be you. Don't overdo you.
I watched Chimamanda talk on YouTube at 2am some days ago and while she spoke, I’d minimize the app to type it out. I absolutely love Chimamanda Ngozie Adichie.
It was our course code 001 right from the very day we were born. Yes, it influenced my life a great deal but what still beats me is why that had to be the source of motivation in order to become a better person or "a better woman".
WHEN YOU GET TO YOUR HUSBAND'S HOUSE Episode One
While growing up as a child, my mom would always give me that pick-up line whenever I misbehaved or didn't do something right. It was like a training ground for a 'husband' who I'd never seen or met or even thought about..
Gradually, I started detesting that sentence or that pick-up line. I didn't even want to go to the so called 'husband's' house.
You see, an average African lady would tell you that she had heard those words practically all her life.