The problem is that our society is overly effusive of men who do the barest minimum of being a somewhat decent person and it makes their heads so big that they lose complete sight of the actual work that needs to be done to combat male violence against women.
im an idiot and thats okay >>> im still smart im still okay im still normal i had my reasons, i have an arc here, i can come back from this
change your idea of okayness
We don't need to take the myth of male stoicism at face value. Patriarchy is perfectly compatible with men expressing emotion!
Achilles spends half of the Iliad weeping and singing songs about being sad, all while keeping women as property!
Brett Kavanaugh wept throughout his
which basically makes me think that artistic productions moved by money and power, in the old as in the now, are what could be understood as the same kind of description of an era. bigass baroque castles and cortis redred are the same to me and thats also funny and fresh
every once in a while theres a kpop performance that hits me w such freshness and fun --- in spite of, *because of* it being a deeply capitalistic creation, a multi-art team effort, something manufactured by professionals.
images/art have not been the same since the exponential technological advance of mass production and reproduction (printing, screens, new media, ai). it's not posible to understand artistic production like art history does anymore (based on assumptions before this evolution).
This is probably the most common and pervasive way in which little girls are taught to prioritise men and placate them at all costs and little boys are taught that life should revolve around them as adults.
sometimes i think i'm reading & writing to understand my lot in the human condition, but then i start thinking it's more like listening to music: i don't want to understand, i want to just feel my being in human, like putting a foot in a river as opposed to drawing it
and that the cause of both is the desire for love/belonging/sense of freedom/fulfillment/etc. thats also ok.
letting go feels great. not of the desires, cuz u cant anyway, but of strategies/standards that seem essential but are not.
this made me realize that at times i feel more lonely and bad, ppl "avoiding" me (quote marks bc i think its on a wide spectrum of intentionality) is not the cause but the effect. the worse i feel the worse i am to other people.
one thing I’ve noticed repeatedly over the years is that generous-spirited people tend to do well and uncharitable people tend not to. and I’ve observed this long enough in enough situations to be pretty sure I’m not making a round-trip fallacy here (success → generosity)
part of this is paying attention to the most personally frustrating/stimulating things, like identifying a person i hate and why (cuz they remind me of my "bad" self), or identifying a person im very envious of (cuz they embody an ideal-self picture that seems so far away rn).