Luckily, my wife and I are both very easygoing and love each other very much.
However, I have never struggled to be a good partner as much as the toddler era, and it's really not close. I suspect a big part of a long-term, healthy marriage is optimizing for surviving a toddler.
people think that loving urself too much is selfish. what’s truly selfish is not finding enough love within urself, and using others a external love providers. people are good when they live in abundance.