We think we want sex, it's not always about sex. it's the intimacy we want. To be touched, looked at, admired, smiled at, laugh with someone, feel safe. Feel like someone's really got you. that's what we crave.
"anak yg baik" itu justru dikasih standar yg ga masuk akal, kalo ga memenuhi standar itu dianggap gagal. kebalikannya "anak yg bandel" dikasih standar yg bare mininum bgt, yg penting gak bla bla bla aja udah dianggap pencapaian.
baru tau ternyata sikap ga mau “ngerepotin” orang lain itu bukan karena kita baik, tapi karena kita takut, kita tumbuh dengan keyakinan kalo kebutuhan kita itu beban, makanya kita belajar menghilang, bukan bersandar.