Amanda

Chronicling all the inappropriate and bizarre messages, cat-calling, and first-date experiences I endure as an Asian chick in this city

[Amanda @modernsingle]

It's the only thing dudes want to know about me. Not my thoughts, hopes, or dreams ...

[Amanda @modernsingle]

As a 38-year old dude, he's flirting like he's 18 ...

[Amanda @modernsingle]

Some dudes will take credit for literally everything ... Picking the spot from a short list I gave you is still me doing the planning!

[Amanda @modernsingle]

I'm starting to think this dude took one look at me, then used the first Asian dish he could think of for his opening question. Should I also offer my opinion on kim chi or bulgogi?

[Amanda @modernsingle]

Yesterday I told him in advance that I might have to push our afternoon first date by half an hour, but let's keep the original time of 4:00 PM. On the day-of, work forces me to push our meet-time back by 30 minutes. This is how he responds:

[Amanda @modernsingle]

I feel like guys ask questions that they wouldn't know how to answer if they were asked the same.

[Amanda @modernsingle]

Why summer strawberry though

[Amanda @modernsingle]

Men will literally say anything except ask a question. How do they not know this is what kills conversations?

[Amanda @modernsingle]

We've never met. We don't know each other. He could ask me any question in the world to try to get to know me better as a person. What's his opening line?

[Amanda @modernsingle]

How do others feel about guys using diminutive names before we've hardly conversed, let alone met in-person? I'm very put-off by it.

[Amanda @modernsingle]

We all know that he's really asking if I'm Korean, Chinese, or Japanese.

[Amanda @modernsingle]

I don't think surveys like these are useful. Everyone has different preferences. Someone else will love what I'm not into.

[Amanda @modernsingle]

Multiple guys will express "wanting to get to know you" without ever expressing what it is they want to know about you ...

[Amanda @modernsingle]

I feel like people do not need to be married to have "experience with relationships." Communication and listening matters, no matter if a relationship is romantic, platonic, or business. Paperwork is irrelevant.

[Amanda @modernsingle]

I just don't know how I'm supposed to keep this conversation going

[Amanda @modernsingle]

I just want ONE guy to ask me a real question besides how are you, what's up, or how's it going ... Something to indicate even mild curiosity about my life!

[Amanda @modernsingle]

We matched on Friday. I relaxed over the weekend. Replied to him Monday. He seemed upset that I didn't treat Hinge like my work inbox, which implies a certain level of entitlement to me ...

[Amanda @modernsingle]

Considering he thought about compassion for others, he did not think to ask me any questions to help further the conversation whatsoever.

[Amanda @modernsingle]

Just another way to ask which Asian flavor I am

[Amanda @modernsingle]

This dude endorses BLM and immigrant rights, which I wholeheartedly support, so I was surprised to see he listed himself as conservative. Turns out he wants to humanize a billionaire Nazi. Disgusting.