Med

Microbiologist, Entrepreneur, Traffic Officer.

[Emeka @Emeneks]

Dear God,

Na only You I get

❤️

[Aproko Doctor Global @aproko_doctor]

Sometimes it feels like we’ve not achieved anything, simply because there’s still so much we want to do.

You’ve paid rent, but you’re thinking about how you haven’t built your house yet.
You got a job, but you’re worried because it’s not paying in six figures.
You finally finished NYSC, and now you feel behind because others are relocating or “blowing” on Instagram.
We think about these things so much that we forget to appreciate what we have.

Progress isn’t always fast or smooth. Sometimes it’s like Lagos traffic — go small, stop, move again. But you’ll still reach.

Appreciate how far you’ve come.
You sef dey try. Encourage your friends, tell them to KEEP GOING.
We’ll get there.

[Indigo State Of Mind⚡️ @ThirdEyeMastery]

People love saying "You could’ve just talked to me" like that was ever a safe option. No, I couldn’t. You don’t listen. You deflect. You gaslight. You twist everything until I feel like I’m the problem just for speaking up. So I'd rather stay silent to protect my peace.

[Libriscent @libriscent]

Imagine losing access to my laugh, my weird questions, my uplifting reminders, the way I see life, the depth of my conversations, my spark and most of all, my love and presence.

[Pharaoh👳🏾‍♂️👑 @MrMekzy_]

Marriage and child bearing is not something we should do with a stupid person.

[Hauwa 🌟🌬 @Hauwa_L]

It gives you choices and choices are in fact everything.

[Tamunodenyefa. @prayziz]

I need you tech bros to develop an app that actually connects landlords with tenants directly, agents are ruining the experience for everybody.

[ODINAKA. El Toro. @TheAjibolaGrey]

Happy Posthumous Father’s Day to the fathers that are no longer here with us. ❤️

[Med @modinaah]

@TheAjibolaGrey Happy Father's Day to my Dad 🕊🕊.

[Med @modinaah]

@abisolababyy @agbede_doris Kileleyi bayi 🤣

[Med @modinaah]

@abisolababyy @agbede_doris Na you ooo... coach mi 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[feyisayo 💸 @feyiszn]

I’ve come to realize adulting makes you crave genuine companionship, whether in a bestfriend or lover. You just want to have one person u can rely on through it all.

Nobody should have to go through these things alone.

[Hauwa 🌟🌬 @Hauwa_L]

Happy international women’s day to all the women out there but a special shout-out goes to the knuckle heads, the fiercely disagreeable ones, the ones who question the rules, the deliciously wild ones, eyin ika, my gangsters. 💣

Happy international women’s day.

[Collins🦋 @collinstimbela_]

Crazy how your spirit knows something is off before you physically see it...

[CAF @CAF_Online]

Super Eagles don show workings, so dem get doings. Confam! Na final dem enter so. No shaking! 🦅🇳🇬

#TotalEnergiesAFCON2023

[Ìfẹ́ @diaryofa9jagirl]

I agree. The Feminism portrayed on twitter is MANY TIMES different from the true essence of feminist values. Numerous "Twitter feminists" seem more inclined to hurl insults than extend help to fellow women, prioritizing uncouth language and rigid expectations over educating and empowering others.

In contrast, many real-life feminists actively contribute to women's lives, irrespective of their stance on feminism, by challenging systemic barriers. Their primary focus lies in empowering women intellectually, financially, and mentally, recognizing that true empowerment fosters self-belief and knowledge.

On twitter, it seems to be a raging war where the fastest finger is deluded into thinking the best comeback has solved a gender bias problem. On twitter, it seems women only have the right to choose if the choice conforms to the expectations set by these Twitter feminists. If you do otherwise, you’re probably an open or closeted misogynist.

Sigh…

It's disheartening that Twitter feminism almost compels me to add disclaimers like "I'm a feminist but not a Twitter feminist," or "I'm a feminist who loves my partner and doesn't hate men." “I am a feminist but I love cooking for my husband…”

I should simply be a able to say “I am a feminist” and that should universally acceptable.

Also, there’s so much anger…

Don’t get me wrong, anger could be justified especially when there’s so much historical and current injustices against women and the stark gender bias could be annoying. In some occasions, anger is NEEDED to convey emotions because staying silent is tantamount to participating in evil doing. Truth is, the reproduction of a bias system can make you go mad if you care enough.

Is the root to your anger because of the injustice of an action, because of a personal pain you feel in relation to the event or because you’re so narcissistic that you completely refuse to accept that there are other ways that lead to a destination aside from YOUR way?

Please understand, I’m not an expert on anger, this is because I rarely get angry, it’s not an emotion that I prioritise so I can’t categorically state ALL reasons why these twitter feminists usually sound angry. I sense vibes and energy though and I have made successful life decisions based on the energy I feel so I can categorically say that I do not hear anger alone from the twitter feminists, I also sense contempt, bitterness and cruelty.

In few occasions, I have allowed my anger override my emotional intelligence and my true intentions but in time, I have come to prioritise real life direct impact over public outrage and winning an argument.

Before you come for a woman’s choices, I beg you to pause and reflect on your words and intentions. Will it empower her, educate her? Are you open to dialogue to understand her intentions or you just want to Lord your self righteous opinions over her?

I’m going to close with Chimamanda’s words. She said, “I say to young Nigerian feminists – please do not use feminism to justify your wickedness… Sometimes, I see some of these young ladies and when talking to them, they sound really mean, and I say to them this isn't feminism; you're just being nasty.”

Note: I’m on holiday so I’ll not be reading responses. If this tweet incites anger, I offer no apologies.

[YOBAMS. @djyobams]

Babe go dey frustrated at work and dem don run dey call you for video to rant to you 🤣🤣🤣

Very amazing people when they like you.

[YH @Yemihazan]

I rather sit with a personality like this, they have the best gists too, proper street, zero forming... the realest 💯

[Alex Oluwatobi @alexlobaloba]

Stop being so hard on yourself.

Remember all the good things you have done.

Remember how far you've come.

Give yourself some credits.

You're doing great, just remind yourself of it more often.

[Ginger @Gboye_Rave]

I wanna wear matching crocs with my partner on a flight to Paris 🤍