“Intolerance of others’ views (no matter how ignorant or incoherent they may be) is not simply wrong; in a world where there is no right or wrong, it is worse: it is a sign you are embarrassingly unsophisticated or, possibly, dangerous.”
“Nnu Ego lay down by the roadside, thinking that she had arrived home. She died quietly there, with no child to hold her hand and no friend to talk to her. She had never really made many friends, so busy had she been building up her joys as a mother.”
I cried.😭
person but you must, for the sake of your mental health, try. Unless, of course, you enjoy the push and pull of being treated that way, then by all means, stay in it. When you’ve had enough, no one will tell you to leave.
A lot of “avoidant” people are not avoidant. They’re just people who take advantage of others to boost their own fragile self-esteem and genuinely just terrible people. The “therapization” of this generation will make terrible people find excuses for why they’re treating you
horribly instead of actually doing the work on themselves or fixing their dysfunctions. Stop internalizing what people do to you. The only thing you can control is your reaction towards them. This is not to remove how difficult it will be to detach yourself from such a
[looking at people younger than me] you have your whole life ahead of you, [looking at people older than me] you have your whole life ahead of you, [looking at myself] it's over.