When someone is trying to talk to me but there’s a spiritual gap, a literacy gap, a purpose in life gap, an aura gap, a style gap and a diverse music gap
How your partner treats you in the middle of a conflict is more important than every loving gesture, every sweet memory, every good moment you both share.
Because anyone can be loving when it's easy.
Flowers after a good week cost nothing emotionally. Date nights when there's no tension are simple. Affection flows freely when nobody is hurt, nobody is accountable, and nobody is being asked to do the hard thing. That version of a partner is the one we fall in love with and the one that gets used as evidence every time we question whether we should stay.
But conflict is the interview. It's where you find out who someone actually is beneath the romance. Do they fight to understand you or fight to win? Do they take space to regulate or disappear to punish? Do they hear your hurt or immediately redirect to their own? Do they repair genuinely, without strings or do they wait for you to pretend it never happened?
A partner who stonewalls, belittles, twists your words, or dismantles your confidence the moment things get hard is showing you something the good moments were always obscuring.
Love is not just what someone gives you when it costs them nothing.
It's how they treat you when it costs them everything their ego, their comfort, their need to be right.
That's the only version that actually counts.
Please pray about everything ! Your mood swings, your temper, your ego, your insecurities, your mindset, your self love, your emotional state, your environment, your relationships, your lack of motivation, your lack of execution, your attraction to bad ppl ! PRAY ABOUT IT ALL !
If only I could normalize those I’m not worried about to stop picking imaginary beef with me. How are you in a “fight” by yourself?? Do y’all be expecting that spontaneous loud cosplay type of argument full of tears and unforeseen emotions? Idk what be wrong with y’all frfr
I think ppl truly underestimate how hard it is for two human beings, to do LIFE together. The amount of effort, compromise, understanding, trust, loyalty, honesty, resilience, love, care etc, etc, that it takes. You have to CHOOSE that person every single day.