In this country where survival is tough,
If you meet a broke guy who isn’t into yahoo, respect him.
If you see a broke girl who isn’t into runs or hook-ups, respect her.
And if you come across people genuinely hustling and earning little, respect them too.
Because the truth is:
There’s nothing special about fraud — any man can steal if he chooses to.
There’s nothing special about prostitution — any woman can sell her body if she wants to.
So what’s the big deal about those who go that route?
I have more respect for the mechanics, bricklayers, and others doing real work —
Even with their dirty clothes and smelly bodies, they carry dignity that fraudsters lack.
I respect the women frying corn and akara on the roadside —
Even with their rough appearance, they are more honorable than those who’ve become public toilets.
Because hear this:
You can lose millions and make it back…
But if you lose your dignity, your value, your good name — you’ve lost everything.
Some losses can never be recovered.
A poor man who becomes rich will be called rich.
But a thief who stops stealing is still called a thief.
A prostitute who changes her ways is still called a prostitute.
Why? Because money can buy almost anything — except your past.
You can rise to wealth overnight.
But it may take 100 years, or never, to erase the scars of bad choices.
Proverbs 22:1 says:
“A good name is to be chosen rather than great riches, and loving favor rather than silver and gold.”
Choose wisely./ Good afternoon
I'm actually genuinely scared that for the next generation, because we have so many olodo's and they would born olodo's, actually very many olodo's.
The quality of Nigerian men and women are dropping very fast. "They call everything cruise" now 😭
1. She won’t ask you for money
2. She won’t want you to spend your resources on expensive outings
3. She greets you first every morning
4. She spends her own money on you
5. She cooks for you regularly
6. She protects / helps you save your money
7. She initiates contact often
8. She shows appreciation for small things
9. She supports you emotionally & practically
10. She makes sacrifices without score-keeping
11. She gets protective of the relationship
12. She introduces you to her inner circle
13. She prays for/with you
14. She is consistent and loyal
15. She builds with you instead of draining you
You have been avoiding relationships for a while now, not because you are heartbroken, you are even a real lover but the state of the country has put you on survival mode that you don’t even think about relationship anymore.
You know it cost money to gift, go on dates or do really nice things for your partner, so you have just been staying to yourself.
On social media, people have been “jokingly” posting “Congratulations to me” after buying a wrap of Sharwama and yogurt and you’ll see comments like “I’ll buy Sharwama once and I will buy it right”. As funny as it sounds, it is just Nigerians finding humor in their suffering. Do you think it is normal?
When last did you buy a box of Pizza?
You’ll go out to buy food, but before you buy a piece of chicken drumstick, you’ll use your calculator to be sure you are not making financial mistakes.
A lot of Nigerians will not be able to afford a car in their lifetime anymore because cars went from 3-5m to 15-30m in the space of two years.
People work four jobs but can’t account for 500k-1M monthly.
To rent a house in the trenches of Lagos, Abuja and PH, you’ll have to hold between 2-7m/annum. Where do you expect fresh graduates to see money to start life?
People can’t even hangout with their friends or go on dates or even travel, either by air or road because of how expensive and insecure these things are.
And some of you have the guts to come here to defend the progenies of these politicians and billionaires affiliated to them.
People whose lifestyles are sponsored with the money that is supposed to make life a little easy for you. People who travel to other continents to eat lunch or take ice cream.
You dare ask the reason for the hate train. A lot of you are irredeemable. Your opinions disgust me because you do not understand how things like this enable them to be comfortable treating you like garbage.
I was going through tiktok and I came across a feminist livestream, where other ladies were sharing their problems.
One thing these ladies had in common was their love for money. The men knew that and used it to get their attention.
The men came into their lives, spent on them and they later gave in to their request, became pregnant for these men and all of a sudden, everything changed. The men started treating them badly, and since then it has been from one abus£d to another.
Let me say this, yes some women are suffering and the reason why most of them are suffering today is because of their love for money.
You might not like me, but this is the truth. A man will come to your life, and you know he's a terribl£ person but because of the money he throws at you, you become completely blind.
If you have your money you'll have a lot of options to filter b@d men out of your life. You can't use your hand to pick a terribl£ man because of your love for money and later blame it on all men instead of yourself.
Women, you owe your children a good father and a role model.
As a man:
-If u get home before ur wife and know how to cook, prepare the food from time to time.
-If u finish eating, u can take ur plate to the kitchen and wash it off urself.
-If the market place is on ur route, ask ur wife if she needs anything and get them if it's not an inconvenience.
-Help the kids with their assignments.
-Assist with laundry like ironing, folding, etc.
You are part of the house.
This is what I would like to contribute to this discussion, with honesty and fairness. I would also like to break my opinion down across different scenarios to make my position clear and balanced.
It is unfair for a woman to divorce a man purely for selfish reasons and then take almost all of his hard-earned assets. At the same time, when a marriage ends because of serious wrongdoing on the part of the man, such as infidelity or other major breaches of trust, then it is right and reasonable for the wife to be compensated in a substantial and fair way for the damage done to her. Justice in marriage dissolution should be based on responsibility and conduct, not a blanket rule that automatically favors one party over the other.
Also without emotion, it must also be acknowledged that marriage often costs women a great deal. Many women give up years of career growth, personal independence, and even long-term financial security in order to build a home, raise children, and support their husbands. Expecting a woman to walk away from such a marriage completely empty-handed is neither fair nor realistic. Equity demands that her sacrifices be recognized, especially where those sacrifices directly enabled the family’s stability or the man’s success.
At the same time, I do not support and will never support a woman destroying a man financially or stripping him of his lifelong investments out of bitterness or entitlement. If love and commitment ever existed, there should still be a moral boundary. No one who truly loved their spouse should be comfortable watching them become homeless, destitute, or broken simply to satisfy a legal advantage.
Society also needs to confront its cruelty toward divorced women, especially those with children. In many cases, a woman is judged immediately as the cause of the marriage’s failure, regardless of the facts. Men are often excused for breaking marital vows, while women are told they should have endured anything for the sake of marriage. That double standard is deeply unjust and contributes to silence, shame, and prolonged suffering.
Where wealth was built together, the most reasonable path is fairness, not punishment. Shared assets can be liquidated and divided in a way that reflects contribution, sacrifice, and responsibility on both sides. Marriage should never become a weapon, and divorce should never be a tool for revenge. True justice lies in balance, accountability, and preserving human dignity for both the man and the woman.
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Menstrual pain is real. And I mean real.
Sometimes it feels like someone is twisting your womb with a hot knife. You can’t stand properly, you can’t think straight, you just want to cry and sleep. We all go through it too, so I completely understand.
But one thing I’ll never understand is how some people use it as an excuse to be nasty or disrespectful, especially to their partners.
Because if we’re being honest, this same menstrual pain never made us insult our lecturers.
It never made us scream at our fathers.
It never made us disrespect our female bosses at work.
So why is it only our boyfriends that suddenly become the punching bag when we’re in pain?
Menstrual pain is not an excuse for bad behavior.
It’s not a free pass to be rude or emotionally abusive to someone who genuinely loves you.
If you can hold yourself together in front of your boss or parent, you can do the same with your partner.
The Pain is valid, but Let’s stop hiding poor character under the umbrella of “I’m on my period.”
Because at the end of the day, menstrual pain doesn’t turn us into monsters, character does.