People are constantly being told who they are.
Sometimes it happens directly through praise, criticism, labels, and expectations. Sometimes it happens indirectly through culture, family dynamics, social media, institutions, relationships, and comparison.
From an early age, people absorb messages about what makes them valuable, lovable, successful, attractive, intelligent, respectable, or worthy.
If they do not develop an inner standard, these external messages begin to shape identity by default.
That is why a strong opinion of yourself is psychological sovereignty.
It is the difference between living from an inner center and living as a reflection of whatever others happen to project onto you.
Joe Haden says most people have no idea how quickly an NFL contract disappears once taxes and family expenses hit.
“I signed a five-year, $50 million contract.”
“I had about $26.6 million guaranteed.”
“My first year, I got a $12 million signing bonus.”
“After taxes, I only touched around $7 million.”
“The first thing I did was give my parents $3 million.”
“Then I bought them a $1 million house.”
“So right away, about $5 million was gone.”
“I bought my brothers cars.”
“I bought myself a penthouse.”
“I got a Range Rover Sport and a Bentley GT.”
“People hear $50 million and think you’ve got $50 million sitting in the bank.”
“That’s not how it works.”
“You look up after all that and realize you might only have around $1 million left.”
“You start understanding real quick that a $50 million contract is not actually $50 million.”
“That’s why so many guys go broke.”
Any former NFL player experiencing a financial hardship due to unforeseen events can apply for the Gene Upshaw P.A.T. (GUPAT) grant.
Review the guidelines here: https://t.co/fmg0Ie63Mc
MENS MENTAL HEALTH MATTERS:
Legendary #Seahawks WR Doug Baldwin has talked about struggling with mental health post-playing career and the serious effects it caused to his family 💔
“I would say that I was clinically depressed for at least eight months. I’m tired. My first daughter, my whole world has shifted and changed in the blink of an eye, and I did not really have prior examples of discipline in my life on how to manage and deal with this properly. Even the guys who have retired before me. They all struggled, and I couldn't lean on them because I knew a struggle was coming. You can’t really plan for that. Eight months of pure hell.”
“I remember one day, and I was sitting down in the chair, and my wife was on the floor playing with our daughter, and I started crying. My wife was like: “Are you alright? What is wrong?” And I said: “I don’t know.” That was when I got my third counselor.”
“I can route you up and catch this ball, turn around and talk sh*t to you, and I am in control of that. That’s a really powerful feeling. When you don’t have that, you know? I am lost. I am completely and utterly lost. I don’t know which way is up, and I've got this baby in front of me, my wife, this house, and I’m 30 years old. I gotta figure this out. It was rough. It had a significant impact on my family.”
This is sadly something that many athletes go through 🙏🙏🙏
Alabama is headed to Pasadena & you're invited to attend the AVO New Year’s Eve Celebration with the Tide, hosted by the National Alumni Association, Yea Alabama, Crimson Tide Sports Marketing and the A-Club.
This is the official on-location Alabama Athletics event, so you won’t want to miss it!
🕕 6–9 p.m. | Dec. 31
📍 Tom’s Watch Bar, Los Angeles
🎉 Buffet, open bar & gifts courtesy of AVO https://t.co/43lrK8Z5U2
🎟️ https://t.co/roZxOW8yST
#RollTide
Twenty-eight football players are among the 40 #Alabama athletes receiving degrees this weekend.
Six will earn their Master's — Ty Simpson, Deontae Lawson, Justin Jefferson and Nikhai Hill-Green.
🔗 https://t.co/EWx1boWVpI
HEARTBREAKING: Former #Giants star Odell Beckham Jr. talks about the struggles of 100 million contract & how the money does not last forever.
“You give somebody a 5-year, $100 million contract. It’s 5 years for 60. We’re getting taxed: That’s 12 a year
Consider this money math as an athlete:
Play 10 years.
Earn $20,000,000
50% goes to taxes & agent fees
Save 20% of that pre-tax # ($4M)
$6,000,000 spent during your career
You are living a $600,000 a year lifestyle.
Your $4M saved can only support something around $120-$150k per year.
NFL Life Line: Free, confidential support for the entire NFL family. If you are experiencing a personal or emotional crisis, you can talk to someone right now at (800) 506-0078 or chat online. Trained, professional counselors are available at all times: https://t.co/hN4rJ8wf1N