The fear of another man struggling with loving my kids is why I do my best not to die. Another man being told "You don't make an effort, Vusi" nge ngane zam 😭😭😭
I even swallow a lot of "Voetseks" ku road rage because of this fear. Ungavumi ngam, Nkosi 😭
I’m at a friend’s 50th. Such a beautiful celebration with beautiful people and beautiful energy. Yet watching adults navigate conversations, interruptions, impulsiveness, restlessness and overstimulation, one realises just how many people may be walking around with undiagnosed ADHD.
I’m no psychologist or psychiatrist, so I cannot diagnose anyone. But it does make one wonder how many adults have spent years being labelled too much, disorganised, distracted, chaotic, attention-seeking or difficult when in fact there may be something deeper at play.
And perhaps this is why so many people move through life exhausted, constantly masking, compensating, overthinking and trying to appear normal in social and professional spaces.
Oh, and my social anxiety is well behaved, thus far.
@Mricho82@BabyPana23 They do yazi, we just dont’t stay for drinks..once knock off time hits asifuni niks esidibanisa nomsebenzi naba sebenzi, we run to our cars and go home
Déjà vu is basically your brain glitching its own memory system. So instead of tagging a moment as new, your brain mistakenly tags it as something that already happened. So it feels like a memory even though it isn’t.
One reason this happens is a tiny delay in how your brain processes information. Part of your brain registers the moment first, then another part processes it milliseconds later. That delay can trick you into feeling like it’s a repeat.
There’s also something called familiarity.
Sometimes a place, smell, or situation feels similar to something you’ve experienced before but you can’t fully remember it. That “almost memory” feeling is also déjà vu.
Your brain is constantly matching patterns. So if something in the present even slightly resembles a past experience, your brain might think you’ve experienced it before even when you haven’t.
So déjà vu is basically your brain confusing what is happening now with what has already happened
i was the poor kid growing up. my mom used to send me to birthday parties with no present, just so i could eat. i got to the point where i understood and was embarrassed as hell.
in fifth grade, my friend’s mom invited me to a sleepover the night before her daughter’s birthday. while her daughter was in the shower, she laid out the birthday presents and let me pick one to wrap with my name on it.
i’m 37 now, and i’m still so grateful to that mom. that one act made such a huge impact on me.
Mental fog is a symptom. The cause is mental fatigue. A slow brain rot that builds every time you lie in bed scrolling through things that add nothing to your life . The cure is simple: slow down. Get bored again. Sit in silence without reaching for your phone. Just you and your thoughts. Read paperbacks. Watch 3 hour long podcasts. Do one thing at a time. Best ideas come in the shower, or when you're on a random walk. These quiet moments give the mind space to expand. A pause, that's all you need, a long conscious pause.
Buy your children a book every month and have a date to talk about the book and what they’ve read. Talk about the characters like they’re real. Bond over literature. Debate the lessons and decision making. Over food and drinks. Cultivate readers and build their collection