@babahoshii your mom and her gen didn't care because in her time any job was enough to buy a home and support a family. nowadays you can't afford shit even with a well-paying job because the middle class is dead
Do you know how horrible someone would have to feel to believe that death is a better alternative to life? How broken their hearts must be to contemplate suicide? How tormented their souls must be to attempt, or sadly, even follow through with a suicide?
@sworland11@financedystop the only place I've visited that strictly enforces no tips (was denied a few times) is Japan. Unfortunately tipping culture is on the rise in Europe for the past few years, wasn't really a thing before
@reddit_lies I can tell by the upvote/comment ratio that he was being gaslit all the way but I'm telling you guys if you're like OP you're extremely incompatible with women who pursued casual sex in the past, you have so many differing perspectives on life at that point
@_MCMXXV_ the problem is you get used to it and only associate depression with really bad streaks in life. then you realize you have zero positive habits and just float around in survival mode
serial dating is such a concerning phenomenon because you have people putting themselves out there 3 days after a breakup which they're clearly not over and most of the time you don't even know it
@dreamsaster yeah I'd say it depends on the severity of the situation. most people are okay with overlooking certain traits so they're willing to stick around when dating. like for example with BPD I've dated some who were okay, while others were clearly a person to avoid from day 1
@lillyofsheep@melanwav people who throw around 'performative' either have a personality type where they're people pleasers and do everything to appease others or are takers with this weird paranoia that people aren't humans but tools and project that everything others do is self-serving
@dreamsaster Like if I notice a girl is showing signs of BPD, validation-seeking behavior or is too quick to get attached I'll take a step back if I want a rs with them. If I don't want anything serious with them I don't care because I know it won't affect me.
@dreamsaster I'm fairly certain men who only want to hook up are actually MORE open to see women show emotions, especially negative ones, because they just want to hit and run. When you want a rs you're thinking long-term, some negative emotions make you worry they're unstable
@ASHIDORIAllCaps@acenter102 Yeah I was already considering that lately and now imma double down on it since it seems like the safest option, thanks fam