i used to think communication was a key until i realized comprehension is. you can communicate all you want with someone but if they don’t understand you or refuse to understand, communication is useless.
You won’t be over it, until your nervous system can regulate it. You won’t move on, until your body feels safe to. You won’t “just think positive” until your thoughts have been affirmed & you are able to heal. If it’s not trauma informed, it’s not meant to heal trauma.
Have you ever tried to confront someone and every sentence you say they flip back on you or change the subject? They’re not going to hear you. They do that because your level of honesty threatens their control. Their focus is how to regain control, not to help you feel heard.
You get irritated with people because your parents did the same with you. You can’t communicate because your parents couldn’t. It didn't start with you. Generational trauma is passed on until someone is ready to — feel it, heal it, and let it go.
new friendships are coming. new lovers are coming. new job opportunities are coming. new living spaces are coming. new vacations are coming. new routines are coming. new habits are coming. new mindsets are coming. a new you is coming.