like ๐ธ an ๐ arrow ๐ in ๐คฉ the ๐ blue ๐ฆ sky โ๏ธ tto โจ haru โ๏ธ deo ๐ naragaji โ๏ธ on ๐ my ๐ง pillow ๐บ on โ๏ธ my ๐ง๐ปโโ๏ธ table ๐บ๐ป yeah ๐ฏโโ๏ธ life ๐๐ปโโ๏ธ goes ๐ ๐ผ on ๐ฅ like โธ this ๐ again ๐ฅฅ
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Several years ago a guy I knew was gonna be in a play, and when I went to watch him I brought him a bouquet of flowers to congratulate him.
He got weirded out, all his friends made fun of him, and assumed I had a crush on him. Later I saw the bouquet lying behind a building, thrown away.
The patriarchy decided that men shouldn't receive flowers, the patriarchy made sure his friends made fun of him and today the same patriarchy is crying that men don't get flowers.
A healthy man reflects and adjusts when he realizes heโs hurting you.
A toxic man will hurt you, twist the situation, and still expect you to tolerate it as โwho he is.
Boss: Before you leave today, I need you to run the project report.
Gen Z: I can get that first thing tomorrow. Itโs already 5:10 p.m.
Boss: I need it before the end of today.
Gen Z: If running your report early was so urgent, why was I not made aware of this earlier? The report will take about two hours to run and then another 30 minutes for me to organize the data before itโs ready to send off.
Boss: Great, get that over to me by 9 p.m. at the latest.
Gen Z:โโโ
My therapist told me, โNo one notices your sadness until it turns into anger, and then youโre the problem. Healing is realizing you became the angry person because no one saw your sadness firstโ and I felt that.
most women aren't crying over the man. they're crying over themselves. the effort they gave, the hope they held, the delusion they fell for, & the reminder that love hasn't rewarded them back.
For any women that needs to hear this. There are loving men out there. There are men who will sit and listen to you while you talk about something that bothered you.
There are men out there that will take accountability and apologize. Who can be aware of their behavior and how it affected you. Men that you can grow with. Men that will make you feel appreciated. You don't have to go through years of trauma with a man who doesn't know how to communicate and has no emotional intelligence. You are worthy of healthy love. And it is out there I promise you.
Being kept around and being fully chosen are two completely different experiences. Being kept around feels like convenience. Youโre only considered when itโs easy, when theyโre bored, lonely, or need something. Thereโs no consistency, no clarity, no real security..just enough attention to keep you from walking away. Being fully chosen looks like intention. Itโs effort without reminders, communication without confusion, and presence that doesnโt disappear when things get uncomfortable. You donโt have to guess where you stand because their actions make it clear every single day. If youโre always questioning your place, youโre not being chosen..youโre being tolerated. And you deserve more than a placeholder role in someone elseโs life.
I respect the hell out of the women in Korea and the brave feminists leading the 4B movement.
"I will not give birth to a life that will discriminate against my gender. My own flesh and blood must not become a blade turned against me. If the world born from my body oppresses me, I will not let that world exist."
Wow. Period.
we donโt talk enough about how gentle patience is. waiting for someoneโs call. waiting for them to heal. waiting for the right timing. love isnโt always about rushing into forever. sometimes, itโs about saying: /# stay. iโll wait. i choose you even in the silence, even in the pauses, even in the spaces where nothing happens.
so many women are out here living MISERABLE in relationships, meanwhile the single girls are sleeping peacefully, glowing, and minding their business. folks kept yelling "go get a man" but half these men can't manage their emotions, their lust, their money, their hygiene, or their loyalty. being single isn't a curse... it's actually the luxury package
Realizing that you're incompatible with someone and choosing to walk away instead of fantasizing about their potential is a superpower. Most people stay because hope feels easier than grief. But real maturity is recognizing incompatibility early and leaving without self-betrayal.
stop getting so emotionally attached and enjoy experiences with a person. be friends. be a moment in time. be a memory. you don't have to fall madly in love with everyone who comes your way. just enjoy their presence for your moment together.
I donโt care how much you and a person rekindle things, you are always gonna think back to how they moved on you, knowing you wouldโve never did it to them. The whole vibe will be thrown off! Itโs hard to love a person twice especially if they didโnt appreciate it the first time
no one tells you how lonely it feels to keep reassuring yourself. โitโll get better, just hold on.โ after a while, even hope starts to sound tired