Privacy is power and protection. Don't overshare and tell people more than they need to know. Some people talk to you to talk about you. Living in private, dating in private, making money in private, healing in private, unlearning in private, and growing in private is self-care.
Securely attached people do what they say they will. They speak what they actually mean. They’re predictable and seen as boring by people who view negative intensity as love.
when someone hurts you, & then avoids you, that’s a clear sign that they know they messed up. not only do they know, but they’re uncomfortable with the fact that they did. they can’t even face themselves & their own behavior. don’t wait around for an apology from them.