I had my first daughter at 23. My son I had when I was 35. Because I was a fossil having a baby, my OB wanted to have genetic testing done to see if my son had any “abnormalities”. I did it, because they drew my blood anyway, but the outcome wouldn’t have mattered. My second daughter was born when I was 37. I chose the all natural midwife delivery this time, for multiple reasons and did not want the genetic testing, as it wouldn’t change the outcome.
A life, is a life, is a life.
Deeply disturbing that even after seeing their tiny boy moving on screen, they chose to end his life. But fought to save their dog.
I don’t understand.
This week, my wife and I made the very difficult decision to terminate the pregnancy due to Trisomy 21.
The choice was not made lightly. We really appreciate all of the personal stories that you guys shared with us, especially the unconditional support we received from fans with no matter what we decided.
I know some of you may be very disappointed to hear this news. We are devastated. This has been extremely traumatic for both of us, especially Ashley.
She underwent the procedure earlier this week and is on the mend. Thankfully, everything went smoothly, but emotionally we are drained.
Trisomy 21, also known as Down Syndrome, is caused by an extra chromosome. It is caused by an error in cell division, like a glitch. The odds of a baby having it is 1 in 1000.
When I first confronted this news, I was shocked but optimistic. If they’re a little slow intellectually, then we’ll make it work. I signed on to be a parent, come what may…but I just didn’t fully understand what Down Syndrome entailed.
Once we made it public, it became clear that MOST people don’t know what Down Syndrome entails (and no, it’s not the same as Autism):
50% of babies with DS have heart defects. 75% will have hearing challenges. Over 50% will have vision problems. Impaired immune function, developmental disabilities, learning disabilities, delayed physical development, poor muscle tone, structural issues with face, decreased lifespan, etc…Sadly, the list is long, feel free to look it up…Down Syndome isn’t a “blessing”, it is objectively shitty from a health perspective.
I didn’t realize just how rough it is for the child, let alone the family…more often than not, they would be fully dependent on others for the rest of their life.
The miscarriage risk is also close to 50%, which made matters worse…they may never see the light of day and it puts Ashley further at risk.
We spoke with doctors, friends, family and genetic counselors and learned that up to 90% of women terminate their pregnancy after learning the baby has Trisomy 21.
This was WAY higher than I expected, I thought it would be lower given that I hear so many say they kept or would keep the baby. I believe that’s because most terminations happen privately, it feels shameful. A lot of judgment being cast.
You never think you’d be in this type of situation until it happens to you and then things change.
To all of my fans who have weighed in on this topic who have Autism, Down Syndrome or any other conditions…we appreciate you. You matter a lot and we’re glad you’re here. I commend you and your families for having the strength and courage to push forward.
As for us, we made a difficult decision that we believe in the long-run will be beneficial for our family. Thankfully, we had a choice.
It will take a little time to move on, but we are excited to try again in the future and hopefully have a better outcome.
Love you guys & thank you for understanding. ❤️
Yesterday the eggs I got from the grocery pick up, fell out of the back of the car when we got home. How am I supposed to save money cooking from home, when I’ve dropped the eggs on the driveway?
Schools really need to remember that PARENTS are still the ultimate authority over their own children.
If I decide my child is staying home, going on a trip, taking a mental break, or simply needs time away from school… then that IS an excused absence because I excused it. I don’t need validation from a doctor, attendance officer, superintendent, or anybody else to parent MY child.
And let’s be real… some of y’all are way too comfortable acting like kids belong more to the school system than to their own families.
My child is not a robot programmed to wake up every morning and perform on command because the state says so. Childhood is short, and I’m not handing over all of my child’s most important years to a system that thinks perfect attendance matters more than real life, family time, mental health, or experiences outside a classroom.
If I want my child home for a week, send the work. If that’s a problem, I’ll homeschool and teach them myself. Reading, writing, math — none of that is impossible without a school building.
And before people start with “they need structure” — structure starts at HOME, not in a classroom.
Don’t send me threatening attendance letters like you have more authority over my child than I do. The school does NOT dictate my child’s life or schedule.
My kids are on MY schedule. Not yours.
My oldest, now 13, had a front lip and tongue tie that we didn’t have taken care of. I was young and out of it in the hospital, had no idea what they were talking about. My two yr old and 2 month old didn’t have those, but I’m wondering if it’s the back tie that can affect the deep patch and suck. I’ve been taking all the herbs I can, and pumping, barely have enough to keep up with her. I’m hopeful that if this is what it is, she’ll adjust well since around the same age as your little one. Hopeful to be able to nurse and not worry about pumping. Thank you so much for the prayers.
@MrsCMFrancis MitoLife Vitamin E. Take 2, 3 times a day for a week. See if that makes any difference. If it does, take it until it clears, and then go to 2 a day for maintenance.
For years I've spoken out against the female victimhood mentality. I still do. Believing you're doomed because you're a woman is the fastest way to become exactly what you say you are. But if we're going to talk about victims, let's be honest: a generation of women were victims of the most successful propaganda campaign in modern history. We are victims of "girl boss" feminism.
We were told that traditional womanhood was oppression. That wanting a husband and babies was basic. That prioritizing love over status was weak. That our bodies were inconveniences to be managed, not miracles to be celebrated.
And now we're shocked that so many of us are alone, childless, and devastated.
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I’m gonna say this again for the cheap agit prop seats in the back.
Donald Trump has been investigated by the FBI, the CIA, the NSA, the IRS, and three state AGs. Not to mention that the Epstein files were in the possession of the Biden DOJ that was headed up by Merrick Garland. They raided his house over trumped up charges no problem.
If there was one iota of proof that Donald Trump had anything sinister to do with what was going on with Epstein, he would’ve been perp walked a long time ago in front of CNN cameras.
Y’all are really just embarrassing yourselves at this point.