It's so selfish to enter someone's life, see that they're a loving, cheerful, and good person, and decide to ruin their peace because you haven't dealt with your own issues. Leave people alone if you have no intention of showing up with sincerity.
my problem is when I like someone, I immediately go too hard. I'm too available, too generous, too loyal, too caring, too reliable. that's my issue, I always love the way I want to be loved in the hope that it will be the same