This is not to say that some styles aren't more effective than others with different people and in different circumstances, but I often hear people complaining about the style or tone of a criticism in order to deflect from its substance. If you think someone's style is an issue, box it as a separate issue to get in sync on.
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Make sure they're fully informed and believable. Find out who is responsible for whatever you are seeking to understand and then ask them. Listening to uninformed people is worse than having no answers at all.
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If you aren't working with people you care about and respect, your job probably isn't the one for you. I will be there for anyone who really needs me; when a whole community operates this way, it is very powerful and rewarding. Personal contact at times of personal difficulty is a must. #principleoftheday
Worrying about "blame" and "credit" or "positive" and "negative" feedback impedes the iterative process that is essential to learning. Remember that what has already happened lies in the past and no longer matters except as a lesson for the future. The need for phony praise needs to be unlearned. #principleoftheday
Meaningful relationships are invaluable for building and sustaining a culture of excellence, because they create the trust and support that people need to push each other to do great things. If the overwhelming majority of people care about having an excellent community, they will take care of it, which will yield both better work and better relationships.
Relationships have to be genuine, not forced; at the same time, the culture of the community will have a big influence on how people value relationships and how they behave with each other. To me, a meaningful relationship is one in which people care enough about each other to be there whenever someone needs support and they enjoy each otherโs company so much that they can have great times together both inside and outside of work. I literally love many of the people I worked with, and I respect them deeply. #principleoftheday
Very happy to see two high-impact rock stars today, both of whom went to @Trinity_U with me - theyโre amazing and Iโm proud to be Trinity grads with them! With @DanielLubetzky and @heatherjbrunner
People who follow this principle will become incredibly valuable to any organization. Camden is blessed to have many of these folks, but we could always use more. Dko
Though it won't feel that way at first, each and every problem you encounter is an opportunity; for that reason, it is essential that you bring them to the surface. Most people don't like to do this, especially if it exposes their own weaknesses or the weaknesses of someone they care about, but successful people know they have to. #principleoftheday
You need to push through and that requires self-discipline to follow your script. It's important to remember the connections between your tasks and the goals that they are meant to achieve. When you feel yourself losing sight of that, stop and ask yourself "why?" Lose sight of the why and you will surely lose sight of your goals. #principleoftheday
Make sure you're following the suggestions made earlier, like building meaningful relationships and constantly getting in sync. Most importantly, you have to encourage people to speak up about how things are going for them. Ensuring that their personal development is proceeding appropriately is important too. Close advice from an active mentor should last at least one year. #principleoftheday
This week I have the incredible privilege of celebrating the BIG 10 anniversary with Camden! ๐๐
I canโt even begin to describe the feeling that this unbelievable experience has been for me. I donโt know where these 10 years went but am looking forward to many many more!