They told me she had a higher chance of genetic abnormalities.
They referred me to genetic counsellors.
They ordered the NIPT.
They laid out every possible outcome.
They gave me my โoptionsโ.
What they didnโt know was that there was never a decision to make.
The testing wasnโt about whether we would keep her. It was about making sure we were prepared for whatever challenges she might face.
Whatever the future was going to hold, we would face it together.
Because no test result could have changed who she was to us.
She was our daughter before the tests.
She was our daughter while we waited for the results.
And she would have been our daughter no matter what those results said.
The way we love her was never going to be conditional.
For five and a half years, our lives have been punctuated by constant knocks at the door from police. Five and a half years of defending ourselves against allegation after allegation, spending thousands upon thousands of dollars responding to claims that were never substantiated and seeing charges repeatedly dropped.
Five and a half years of heartbreak, stress, and emotional exhaustion. Five and a half years of watching how easily a good man can be painted as a criminal simply because he refuses to walk away from his child.
What has been especially difficult is that, even when allegations did not result in convictions and charges were dropped, it often felt like nothing changed. There was no sense of closure, no safeguards to prevent the cycle from repeating, and no accountability when the process started all over again. Instead, it felt like we were left to brace ourselves for the next allegation, the next investigation, and the next disruption to our lives.
There are fathers out there whose only โoffenceโ is wanting to be present, involved, and active in their childrenโs lives. Fathers who continue to fight through endless obstacles because they love their children and believe those relationships matter.
The hardest part is knowing that children do not stay children forever. They grow up. They ask questions. They seek answers. And one day they will look back, examine everything for themselves, and make their own decisions about what happened, who fought for them, and who stood in the way.
The truth has a way of finding its way to the surface. When that day comes, those decisions will belong to them.
Rest in peace, Anthony Stewart Head ๐๏ธ. Hereโs a clip of him as Giles in Buffy the Vampire Slayer performing a cover of Behind Blue Eyes by The Who. A beautiful performance that fans will never forget. ๐
Iโm probably not going to believe you when you are saying you are grieving the loss of a child, when you intentionally killed them! You sound insane.
In 29 days, we will celebrate the 250th birthday of our exceptional nation, which became the greatest of all because we were the first to declare the self-evident truth that all people are created equal by God.
Not โborn equal.โ We are โCREATED equal.โ
Because God made us all in His image, it means EVERY SINGLE PERSON has inestimable DIGNITY and VALUEโand our value is not related in any way to the color of our skin, what zip code we live in, what our talents are, our health condition, or any other factor. Our value is inherent, because it is given to us by our loving Heavenly Father.
When a culture devolves to the point of depravity where โinfluencersโ can go online and so casually dismiss the deliberate murder of their own precious child, the survival of that culture itself is at risk.
God have mercy on our nation as we pray and work for an end to this evil, for hearts and minds to change, and for a renewed understanding of the self-evident truths and the sanctity of all human life.
โBefore I formed you in the womb I knew you.โ (Jeremiah 1:5)
Aborting your child because you donโt like that it has special needs and then posting about it for social media attention has got to be the most messed up thing Iโve ever seen. Satanic.