S the warrior queen

A survivor of abuse. Trying to navigate the world of autism whilst wanting to help the world to be kinder a place.

[Tell me no Lies 💔❤️‍🩹➡️❤️🥰🌹💪🏻🚫Narcissists🚫 @lovewins11011]

Aka- Narcissistic smear campaign

[S the warrior queen @MrssDragonfly]

#narcissists #EducateYourself

[S the warrior queen @MrssDragonfly]

@V_Middleton1 Goodness. I hope you take this further. It’s amazing the lies narcissists will tell to make themselves look amazing.

[Narcissistic Abuse Awareness @AwareOfTheNarc]

Never underestimate the power of stepping away.

[Narc Free Living @NicoleAnicca]

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[Narc Free Living @NicoleAnicca]

Amongst many more.

[S the warrior queen @MrssDragonfly]

@lovewins11011 Require counselling. It also led me to educate myself about it as much as I could to help me heal. It’s now made me aware of narcissistic red flags and less of a target in the future.

[Dr Karen Mitchell PhD @karenmitchell__]

Identifying red flags in narcissists/psychopaths who are savvy and smart is an art form.

They proactively seek out opportunities to be associated with ‘the right people’ in a public way that provides a perfect cover and gives them legitimacy. Red flag - those who actively pursue public affiliations with multiple high profile experts or successful people in their field, industry or organisation.

They are often exceptionally convincing but if you listen to their stories without letting their gravitas or image engage you, the inconsistencies, however slight, are there. I recently listened to a woman claiming to be a victim of domestic violence (coercive control) interviewed about her experiences and while most of the story sounded legitimate, there was one part that was not part of a pattern of coercive control. It was a nice touch which made her story seem so much worse but it is not consistent with how controllers behave. In fact it seemed more like a scene from a movie which is possibly where it was from.

They will always slip up by saying, posting or writing something that is a bit ‘off’. The inability to ‘get’ other people’s feelings is an issue for them. They tend to copy others’ stories or material when they can for this reason. This same woman claiming to be a coercive control victim posted something on social media which was meant to comfort victims but it lacked a level of compassion. This is rare amongst victims of DV who are acutely aware of shared experience and what it takes to be emotionally supportive of this experience.

Narcissists/psychopaths, when they err, will find ways to make excuses which sound reasonable however if you listen from a point of pragmatism, the reasons do not add up. For example, ‘I have to get better at using Facebook’ when the issue related to what they had WRITTEN on a Facebook post. There are disconnects.

Narcissists/psychopaths HATE having their errors exposed. Where they have a facade of ‘nice’ or ‘kind’ or ‘helpful’, in particular, the covert anger is evident when challenged or exposed but you have to be alert to it. For example, you might appropriately bring a slip-up to their attention and they thank you for that but not in a way that is genuine, it is stilted or without accompanying dialogue. ‘Through gritted teeth’ is the phrase that comes to mind. Most of us do not like negative feedback but we are generally uncomfortable or upset or concerned or genuinely pleased because we can act on it. Narcissists/psychopaths are acutely angry.

They sometimes overplay or underplay their constructed facade or ‘emotional responses’. So a n/p who has a facade of ‘sweet’ may be sickly sweet. A n/p who is trying to show sadness might have no tears but wipe their eyes anyway.

N/p are exceptionally self-deprecating to those they want something from. Again, using a pragmatic approach, it is possible to see and hear this.

It takes a number of red flags to create a full picture. The more skilled one is in recognising them, the faster danger can be averted.

[S the warrior queen @MrssDragonfly]

Engaged to “the love of the their life” (who happened to be rich- bought them holidays, a car, house etc) & then married someone else who is also referred to as the “love of their life” (even more rich) a year later. Not saying they’re a #Narcissist but, if the pattern fits 😜