approaching a man as a woman is a great way to get a man who doesn’t actually like you but is happy using you for as long as you’ll allow lmao
it’s also a great way to get a man too cowardly and unassertive to approach women he actually likes (horrible to date and live life with)
- At the first sign of abuse or disrespect, LEAVE!!
- Getting married and having children is NOT compulsory.
- Go to school, get as much degrees as possible, a pretty face and smart brain will get you so far.
- DONT fall in love with potential.
- I know male attention is fun, but I promise you it means nothing.
- Work like a woman, think like a woman, talk like a woman, prioritize yourself like a man.
- Believe a man's actions not his words.
- listen to your instincts ALWAYS.
My parents slept in separate rooms my whole childhood. I asked my dad about it once. He said they made a deal early because my mum snores and he tosses. He said they sat down one evening and talked it through like a business meeting. His words. He said the first night apart they both slept like babies. He said they were happier than they had ever been. He never told people. Because when he said separate rooms they said oh I'm sorry. He said he was never sorry. He was just tired of explaining that love does not have to mean sharing a blanket. They are still married 39 years later.
Pregnancy gets 9 months of attention. Labor gets a hospital stay. Postpartum gets one 15 minute checkup at 6 weeks.
But postpartum is the longest medical event of your life. Your hormones don't return to baseline for at least 6 months (longer if you are BF). Your pelvic floor takes a year (at least). Your bone density takes longer. Your brain is remodeling itself for years. You're metabolically recovering for as long as you breastfeed.
We have completely undercounted what this season actually is. And too many women are doing it all alone.
A man that is trained by a woman only, will hardly make a good husband/father because he doesn't know what it takes to be a man.
Stop depriving your children access to their father because you both are divorced.
Most of this divorce affects the children, today, tomorrow and forever.
My husband and I both work full-time, but somehow after we got married, all the house chores quietly became my responsibility.
Even when he helped, it felt like he was “assisting” me instead of us both taking care of our home.
One week, his mom came to visit. I was cleaning, cooking, doing laundry, basically running around the house while my husband sat on the couch watching football. I asked him if he could help vacuum and he casually said, “Later,” without even looking up.
His mother looked at both of us and said “Did you both not come back from work yesterday at the same time?”
I laughed and said, “We did.”
Then she asked my husband, very calmly, “So why is she the only one working today too?”
Silence.
That woman got up, took the remote from his hand, switched off the TV, and handed him the vacuum cleaner.
Then she said, “Marriage is not a system where one person rests while the other manages everything. If both of you are contributing financially, then both of you contribute at home too.”
She then looked at me and said “I didn’t raise my son to think his wife is his personal maid, Don’t let exhaustion become your personality because you’re trying to prove you’re a good wife.”
I swear that sentence changed something in me.
Now we split things properly . If I cook, he cleans up. If one of us is overwhelmed, the other steps in. The entitlement disappeared completely.
She still calls sometimes just to ask him, “Hope you’re not stressing my daughter?” 😭
So I got my period at work today with absolutely no warning and went around asking all the women in the office if anyone had anything and nobody had a single thing.
One of the guys overheard me and said he had pads in his car because he keeps them there for his girlfriend for emergencies.
And then he went out to his car and came back and handed me a pastry bag.
This man had put the pads inside a pastry bag so nobody would know what was in it. To save me the awkwardness of walking through the office visibly carrying pads. He thought about that. On his own.
And it wasn't just one, he gave me two because I had an eight hour shift and he did that math himself apparently.
I was not prepared for......
You turned personal injustice into institutional memory. That is what many young lawyers do not understand. Documentation matters. Patterns matter. Today’s “isolated incident” can become tomorrow’s evidence of systemic misconduct.
You also proved something important about the legal profession. Sometimes the best lawyers are born from people who were first failed by systems meant to protect them.
In 1998, I was fired from my corporate job while 9 months pregnant because and I quote, “my priorities would be elsewhere after the baby is born.”
The lawyer I hired told me I didn’t have a case because discrimination like “that” was almost impossible to prove.
So I got pissed.
Took the LSAT. Went to law school. Passed the bar. Had 3 more kids.
Twelve years later, another woman from that same company was fired for the same reason. She sued them for a million dollars, and won, partly because I had kept every piece of evidence from what happened to me years prior demonstrating a systemic pattern of discrimination against women.
That company no longer exists. My law practice is thriving. And that baby they said would derail my priorities? She’s a brilliant attorney now working at my firm.
Turns out my priorities were indeed, elsewhere.
Nobody talks about how God’s love is not transactional. It doesn’t increase when you’re faithful and decrease when you’re not. It doesn’t reward your good seasons and withhold in your bad ones. It’s the same yesterday, today, and forever. 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹
1. Never overshare or overplay your role in his life.
2. Don’t ever fall in love with a man who has wandering eyes, they would never fully stay committed to you.
3. Always choose a man who loves you over a man you love. It saves you from heartbreak.
4. Never treat a man based on how you feel about him. Always treat him based on how he treats you.
5, Never ever be too available for a man. It causes overfamiliarity.
6. Never believe a guy that says let's take things slowly and see where it goes.
7. Never let a man prove that he doesn’t love you more than twice.
8. They know exactly what they are doing. If they show you, believe it and don't make excuses for him or you will cry blood.
9. Don't carry the whole relationship alone, you will die young.
10. Never marry or date a mama’s boy.
11. Never trust a man with so many female besties, they are definitely having sex together.
12. Don't ever loan a man your money. Never tell a man the truth about your finances. Today's men are the real gold-digging barbie princesses.
13. Don't be desperate for marriage, take ur time girl.
14. Never repeat yourself. He heard you the first time.
15. If you think something ain't right, then it is definitely not. Listen to your intuitive thoughts.
16. Don’t reveal your past to a man. He does not have to know anything.
17. Never go a single mile for a guy that hasn't gone an extra mile for you.
18. Do NOT forgive a cheating partner.
19. Don't ever start a relationship with always finding ways to prove yourself and loyalty.
20. Stop listening to what they say after they hurt you, and start watching what they repeatedly do before they hurt you again.
Lastly, never ever settle for less. Love yourself so much, don't ever lower your standards for any man, have boundaries and strongly abide by them.