At this big age when people show signs of hidden animosity or weird energy, I just remove myself. I’m not trying to understand you and I’m not trying to make it make sense
i am begging some of you to become ok with hearing not-so-great-things about yourself. especially if it is coming from a loved one that historically respects your agency. chances are you unknowingly crossed a boundary & someone is trying to tell you in a respectful way.
Grateful for privilege. That I do not work jobs that don’t align with me. I do not spend time with people I do not care for. I do not stay in places I do not want to be in.
I loved Ebuka’s final words:
“This is like the 10th reunion I’m hosting, and this is the one with the least amount of apologies. Not to say that means anything. Maybe some of you are cool, so maybe we didn’t need that many apologies. But it also feels like we went through conversations and things dipped.
While I understand that some of you come here wanting to win let’s be honest with ourselves you want them to say, ‘My girl, she finished them’” (Ebuka is chronically online 😭😭😭)
“A lot of that is playing in your heads, and we know that not all friendships are worth it and not all beefs are that deep. But I have always said this for the last decade: I’m not pushing for anybody to be friends, but I think a lot of you can be cordial.
It feels like being cordial is seen as weakness. Being the person who says, ‘Are we okay?’ becomes a talking point. Ah, they must know it’s you that came to me.
For people who lived together for so long, how does it get to the point where even a ‘hi’ means, ‘I won’? Not everything has to be a competition about who is winning and who is not.
If you felt some way about somebody in the house and I’m not talking about relationships, I’m talking about one week, two weeks, three weeks how do you dislike that person so much now?
Everybody here talked about everybody. Nobody is exclusively innocent in some way. Maybe the degrees vary, but conversations were had.
So when you come out and say, ‘I saw clips’, you said yours
We were in the house, we were gisting. Sometimes gist can be misinterpreted as something else.
Some of you come out to fanbases, and the fact that you feel like you have a backing makes things shift.
In a nutshell, what I’m saying is: this is done. Life is going to go on. Some of the most successful people, businesses, and marriages come from collaboration. You cannot run away from it.
You have to learn to deal with situations without feeling the need to one up the other person or feeling like the other person is trying to take advantage of you.”
Honestly, one of the best reunion closing speeches he has given.
I'm at a point in my life where I pray to keep meeting the right people. People who genuinely want the best for me, hold me in high regard and add peace to my life.