some people don't see their behavior as wrong because it's normal around them. when everyone does it, it starts to feel okay. that's why self-awareness and the right circle matter.
all of us are two-faced sinners. we excuse the sins we enjoy, yet condemn the sins we dislike in others. mercy for our own sins, judgment for everyone else.
when he tells you that you never understood him, but you were literally good without flowers, without dates, without little letters, without thoughtful gestures, no surprise outings, no pictures, no "showing me off"...
you don't get to claim insight into someone's character when you deliberately provoke the worst in them in order to prove the negative things you've been saying. you fucking psychopath.
you seem pretty avoidant for someone who wants to be seen. you want connection. you want someone to stay, to listen, to sit beside you when things feel heavy. you want to be known in a way that feels safe and real.
sometimes i think there's a softer version of me somewhere — one who never had to be this tired, this guarded, this endlessly resilient. but i buried her the first time i realized the world doesn't stop breaking you just because you've had enough.
i will absolutely take responsibility when i am wrong. but i will never apologize for responding to disrespect. if you started the fire, do not stand in the flames pretending to be the victim.
demonizing me won't hide the destructive behaviors you're desperately trying to defend.
you can paint any narrative you like, but truth has a stubborn habit of revealing every painful thing you've tried to hide behind accusations and playing innocent.
if you're not at the table, you're on the menu.
a lot of people don't realize this until it's already happening.
decisions get made without you. conversations happen about you, not with you. when you don't claim your space, someone else defines it for you.