Delay is indeed not denial. Alhamdulillah always.
He has the best Knowledge of How, When and where
We accept His decree and He will give us the best by His will.
Alhamdulillah robil Alamin
Bachelor of Arts (B.A.) in Arabic Language and Education (University of ilorin)
Master’s degree in Leadership and Management,United Kingdom
Memorized the Qur’an and written it by heart.
Represented my state in Qur’an competitions both locally and Nationally.
A Thanawiy graduate from Az-Zumratul Adabiyyatul Kamaliyyah.
Owner and Co-Founder of Al Firdaous Islamic Open Academy, an educational institution that has served and supported over 300 students both locally and internationally.
القراءات العشر الصغرى عن طريق الشاطبية والدرة (In View).
•BSc in Agronomy
•MSc in Agronomy
•Background in plant breeding and crop improvement within agronomy
•Published 3 peer-reviewed research articles
•Contributed to scientific knowledge in plant breeding through published work.
•Authored a book
•Presented a paper at NPBA
Is it permissible for a woman to change her surname due to marriage?
If you are a Muslim woman, please listen to this. In our religion, your identity is not a piece of clothing you discard just because you signed a marriage contract. The bond of lineage, what we call Nasab, is sacred and immovable.
When a woman marries, she does not become the property of her husband’s family tree. She remains the daughter of her father. This is why you see that the wives of the Prophet (peace be upon him) never became "Aisha Muhammad" or "Khadija Muhammad." They were always known by their fathers.
The Quran is very direct about this when it tells us to call people by the names of their fathers because that is more just in the sight of Allah. Taking a husband’s surname in a way that wipes out your own father's name is technically a violation of this principle of truth.
Also, this issue has a very dark side in our societies. Because people think a girl child will eventually "carry another man's name," they start to see her as a temporary guest.
This is where the obsession with male children comes from. People will go to extreme lengths, sometimes even moving into the haram, just to get a son who will "immortalize" the family name. It is a tragedy.
A daughter is a blessing that can lead her parents to Jannah, yet we treat her name like it is a placeholder. When a woman keeps her father’s name, it sends a powerful message that her identity is permanent. She is a person in her own right, not just a branch moved from one forest to another.
Having said this, it is critical I talk about how the world is at the moment. We live in a world of passports, visas, and complex legal systems, especially in the West. It can be a nightmare to travel with children if the mother’s name doesn't match the rest of the family on paper.
This is where the wisdom of modern scholars comes in. Many have given a concession for the compound format. You can keep your father’s name as your primary identity but add the husband’s name for legal recognition.
This way, you fulfill the administrative requirements of the state without cutting the tie to your own lineage. It is a middle ground that respects the law of the land while staying true to the law of the Almighty God.
Islam allows you to keep your roots while navigating the modern branches.
Allah knows best.
Ya Allah, my heart longs to visit Your Holy House, but I do not yet have the means. make a way where there seems to be none. Bless me with provision, ease, and an invitation to stand before You in Your sacred land. (Ameen)
Ya Allah, I am uneasy. Ya Malik, I am lost and confused. Ya Ghaffar, forgive my sins. Ya Jabbar, help put back the heart you didn't break. Ya Karim, bless me with an abundance of health, wealth, love, and success. Ya Razzaq, provide for me through means I didn't know existed. Ya Fattah, open the doors that have shut on me. Ya Mujib, You answer all duas, 1, your servant is in dire need of Your help. Rabbi inni lima anzalta ilayya min khairin faqir.
Whoever sold the gospel of marriage to Nigerai women did them a great disservice. And the person is long gone, otherwise, an apology would have been necessary, to please come and take his/her gospel back.
Sometimes, when you hear the unspeakable things some women endure just to remain married, and your sanity instantly rebel against it. You find yourself wondering how staying married became more important than dignity, safety, peace, and selfhood. The things some women tolerate in the name of “keeping a home” are beyond comprehension.
There are moments I am genuinely grateful I am not a woman, because I cannot imagine subjecting myself to such humiliation, pain, and emotional violence just to keep any man. No relationship should demand the erasure of one’s humanity as proof of commitment.
This will not be a long thread 🧵
So you can read if you have the time.
𝗬𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝟭 𝗦𝗮𝗹𝗮𝗿𝘆: 80,000
𝗬𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝟮 𝗦𝗮𝗹𝗮𝗿𝘆: 100,000
𝗬𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝟯 𝗦𝗮𝗹𝗮𝗿𝘆: 120,000
At the start of Year 3, the employee decides to resign.
Suddenly, the same company that was “budget constrained” offers 250,000 to make him stay.
He still leaves.
Joins another company at 200,000
Not because money didn’t matter.
But because respect 𝗺𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲.
For 2 years, he delivered results.
For 2 years, he proved his worth.
Yet his value was only recognized 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝘄𝗮𝗹𝗸 𝗮𝘄𝗮𝘆.
That’s when it hit him:
“So the budget was always there… just not for me.”
Corporate 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆
𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝗻𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗱 𝗹𝗼𝘆𝗮𝗹𝘁𝘆.
𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗿𝗲𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗱 𝗹𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗴𝗲.
Know your worth.
And don’t wait for a resignation email to be valued.