a woman said something that really made me pause. she said the women most likely to stay in relationships that cost them everything aren’t always the ones with the lowest self-worth.
sometimes they’re the ones with the greatest capacity for hope, they don’t stay because they can’t see the truth.
they stay because they can see the possibility.
they see who someone could become, and they keep loving that version long after reality has shown them something different.
Unfortunately, women don't like nonchalant men. Lead her. Check in on her, love her loudly, tell her she's beautiful, plan dates, communicate with her even when it's difficult, and buy her flowers. Be healthily obsessed with her, and in return, you'll get a woman who will continue to pour into you without being asked and who will fight to protect your peace the way you protect him. Healthy love isn’t nonchalant. It shows up with intention. It communicates, even when it’s uncomfortable.