Fandom gooners are actually one of the nicest people you can meet in the community, they’re the exact opposite of the shipping side of the community lol.
The internet constantly tells women that men are terrible listeners because the second a woman starts venting about her day, the man immediately interrupts to offer a logical solution. We are taught to view this as him being dismissive, emotionally unintelligent, or invalidating our feelings.
The strict, unpopular truth is that to a man, fixing the problem is his absolute highest, most desperate form of empathy.
Women vent to connect; we want our partner to just sit in the dark with us and validate the emotion. But men are hardwired to view the woman they love being in distress as an active threat. When he immediately offers a spreadsheet, a strategy, or a solution to your problem, he isn't trying to silence you. His brain has recognized that something in the world is hurting his partner, and his immediate, visceral instinct is to assassinate the thing causing you pain.
We constantly shame men for "not just listening," completely ignoring the fact that his attempt to fix your life is his most profound declaration of love.
The difference is that a fat man knows that he’s fat. When we call our fat male friend names like biggie, opom, they answer, they also joke with it.
A fat man will write “young biggie” at the back of his newly purchased jersey. Most fat men know it’s time to hit the gym. Fat men know the reality, they embrace it, they live with it.
Now you see fat women, they create different phrases to keep being delusional. Names like, body positivity, plus-size, chubby. When in reality we all know that there’s nothing positive about being fat, we all know how dangerous it is to the health.
Hit the gym today, Fatty
a friend of mine asked a woman out after talking with her for weeks. she smiled and said... no, i’m not really interested like that, sorry. ten years ago, he might have tried again, i mean the literal sending of flowers, planning something thoughtful or making bigger efforts, that used to be called romance.
instead he just nodded and said... no worries and he never asked again. months later she told a mutual friend she was surprised he gave up so quickly, but here’s the quiet shift most people haven’t noticed: a lot of men aren’t less interested anymore, they’re just more cautious.
for years men were told persistence was charming but today the same behavior can be interpreted as pressure or disrespect, so the new rule became simple: ask once, accept the answer and move on.
not because they stopped caring but because the safest place to invest effort is where the enthusiasm is already mutual.