My man told me something the other day that lowkey rearranged my brain a little.
He said, “I’m not here to control you. I’m not your father, I’m your partner. You’re grown, you can make whatever choices you want. Just know every choice comes with consequences. If you pick something that hurts what we built, that decision belongs to you.”
Then he goes, “I’m always gonna tell you when something hurts me or crosses a boundary, because that’s how real communication works. But if I show you where the line is and you keep stepping over it, then you’re not protecting us… you’re just choosing yourself.”
And yeah… that’s when it clicked for me. Accountability in a relationship isn’t yelling, rules, or control. It’s someone giving you freedom and trusting you to care enough not to misuse it.
If we're dating, I actually want to be your second priority.
Your first priority should be you. Your ambitions, your life, and your future. Stay focused! I want the best for you. Don't let me be a distraction; let me be your motivation, your support, and your partner in growth.
the older i get, the more i reach the conclusion that most problems within a relationship can be resolved with emotional intelligence and good communication, only IF both parties have the same intention: to find solutions.
IN ORDER TO BE IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP YOU GOTTA TALK ABOUT THE THINGS THAT BOTHER YOU... EVEN IF YOU AGREE TO DISAGREE and i think y'all need to engrave this into your soul.
y’all think cheating is the only thing that ends relationships, when really it’s the lack of compassion, the absence of consideration, no affection, no effort, no dates, filthy attitudes, and constant inconsistency. neglect can end a relationship long before betrayal ever does
People will call anything blackface. She did not make herself into a caricature of black person. She painted her face the color black. These two things are very different.
y’all are so obsessed with finding a man .. girl go study, find a better job, find a skin care regimin, tweak your resume, increase your credit, get that degree, pay off your car, build your savings, travel, live a little, but keep your priorities straight ! life is not all about a man . take care of you !