@steady_taker@KotterK45415@vector_olal Why didn’t you invest it without telling him it was urs? And why were you scared if you didn’t make the money illegally?
There is this idea floating around that if someone truly loves you, they should just know how to love you. They should intuitively understand your needs, anticipate your feelings, and speak your love language fluently from day one. And while that sounds beautiful in theory, it is not how real life works. Love is not telepathy. It is not mind reading. It is translation. It is two people from different emotional backgrounds, different upbringings, different wound patterns, learning to speak a language neither of them was born speaking.
Some people were raised in homes where love was loud and demonstrative. Some were raised in homes where love was quiet and shown through acts of service. Some learned that love meant sacrifice. Some learned that love meant presence. Some were taught to express affection openly. Some were taught to keep it close to the chest. None of these are wrong. They are just different. And when two different people come together, there is inevitably a gap between how they give love and how they receive it. That gap is not a sign of incompatibility. It is an invitation to teach.
And the beautiful thing is, when someone truly loves you, they want to learn. They want to know what makes you feel cherished. They want to get it right. They may stumble. They may forget. They may need reminders. But their willingness to try is the proof of their love. The person who says, tell me what you need, and then actually does it, that is the person worth keeping. The person who listens when you say, this hurt me, and then adjusts their behavior, that is the person who is invested.
I can tell you this for free.
There are some situations where people can explain why a murder happened but there is none for rape.
“We were fighting and I pushed him and he fell and hit his head on a slab and died”
“He attacked my wife and I punched him and he died”
“He stole my life’s savings, I tracked him down and took his life”
So many murderers in prison have different excuses for why they committed murder. Could be revenge, could be a crime of passion, could even be an accident, could be self defense.
This is why nuance and context is considered during trials to determine whether a person is truly guilty and even the length of sentence the judge gives.
What you’ll never hear in your life is an excuse for rape.
“I was sexually frustrated and I would have died if I didn’t do it with her”
“I never nack for 3 months and my blood pressure was rising. She was the only one available”
“My penis has been erect for one week. I had to find a solution”
You see how foolish those things sound? That’s why you’ll never hear them because none of them are even near valid excuses.
There is 100% no justification for rape.
It is one of those crimes where the victim becomes a victim for life.
Some of us have had our pockets picked before and our phones and wallets stolen. We grieved over it, e pain us but eventually, we bought new and even better phones and moved on.
No one whose blackberry bold 3 was stolen 19 years ago still reflects about it and grieves over it. The person is no longer a victim.
But with rape, the victim is a victim forever. It is a lifetime of trauma.
IF A WOMAN SAYS NO, SHE MEANS IT. Leave her alone.
you need to be slowmaxxing. you need to be reading long, fat books. you need to be making 48-hour chocolate chip cookies. you need to spend hours watching wildlife, you need to spend 15+ min making your coffee. you need to breathe in and breathe out. you need to be slowwwwwwwwwww.
Masuhd, when exactly has feminism destroyed the family unit? Point at the moment. Name the country, the decade, the mechanism.
Because as far as I can see and read, all feminism has ever done is tell women they do not have to endure torture, that they can walk into a bank on their own, sign a contract on their own, own land on their own, and be more than an unpaid servant with a wedding ring. None of that destroys a family. It changes the terms it has to be built on, which is a different thing entirely.
If we are serious about protecting the family unit, let us name what actually destroys it. Domestic violence destroys families. Alcoholism destroys families. Men with three side homes and one salary destroy families. Fathers who disappear when the pregnancy tests come back positive destroy families. Land grabbing widows destroys families. In-laws who chase a woman out of her own home the week after her husband is buried destroy families. Poverty, unemployment, and a state that steals the money meant for schools and hospitals destroy families every day in this country.
Notice something about that list. Not one item on it is feminism. Every single one is a thing feminism has been trying to fight for decades and men have been fighting to preserve. If your concern is really the family, direct your energy at the actual arsonists. Otherwise, what you are protecting is not the family. It is your comfort inside it.
@tonysoslime@Kelly_too_nice Oh somehow you have a really detailed description of a video you know nothing about, your mama’s a real one but stop watching porn.