@ZainabSana2622 People with kids weren’t born with kids. They had a life before children and know what it’s like. They literally have experienced both so I’d say people with kids have a pretty damn good idea what child free feels like.. bc at one point they were child free 😂
O cara lava o carro perfeitamente mas diz que não sabe lavar um banheiro.
Conhece o nome de todos os jogadores dos times, mas não das professoras e dos amigos dos filhos.
Aprende tudo sobre o game mas não aprende a cozinhar.
Não é sobre habilidade e sim sobre interesse.
I have a feeling that at least some of the drop in marital satisfaction when women make more than men isn't "women are hypergamous" or other circular psuedoscience, but actually comes down to the fact that when men make more, women do more domestic work, but when women make more... they still do more domestic work. That would create resentment if you were a lady putting in a lot of overtime and your husband refused to put the kids to bed without your help, or if he just expects you to cook and clean and you don't have time.
“Your problem is you want a life hard working people only get to see after their mid 30s but you’re barely in your mid 20s.
Look around you babe, the only agemates you see in this establishment are here with their dads, not their spouses.” - Nairobi Aesthetic Reality
I know a number of people who didn’t marry their “spec” but are in the healthiest marriages I know. Their spec was typically whatever was culturally deemed to be at the apex of the attractiveness pyramid when they were growing up. For a lot of guys in my generation, it was the music video “vixens” from the late 90s/early 2000s Hip & R&B music videos with ‘coke bottle figures’ and or light skinned eurocentric features. When it’s time to find a partner for the very serious endeavor of sharing a life with, that “spec” is simply inadequate as a measure of compatibility and that’s understandable. The foolishness though is communicating it as though their partner somehow didn’t measure up to their “spec” instead of simply admitting that the idea of their spec was stupid all along and a young boy’s lack of wisdom of what makes a good life partner.
Communicating publicly or even privately to your partner that they weren’t your spec to begin with may seem harmless, after-all you’re just being honest. But subconsciously, it’s an ego trip for you who “settled” and for your the partner, it’s a chip they will always carry on their shoulder that to you, they aren’t quite enough. They’re missing something you had always longed for, so much so that you still consider it to be your “spec”. It’s an unnecessary mind fuck and a cruel thing to say about somebody who is sharing a life with you. No matter how flowery you are with the compliments that come after. You’ve already knocked them down several pegs.
If the point is to say your spec changed then talk about the stupidity of having a spec to begin with. Because I’ve never heard anyone in these situations talk about character attributes being their spec, it’s always superficial stuff. Or speak about how meeting your partner opened your eyes to what true beauty is. Speak in ways that elevate and affirm your partner.
Dear Investor,
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No asset class performs well forever.
“Every asset has its day in the sun—and its day in the doghouse.”
Build a balanced portfolio that can weather different market cycles
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There is a very specific female fatigue that comes from knowing exactly what is happening, explaining exactly what is happening, being told you are overreacting, and then watching exactly what is happening happen with excellent punctuality.
That’s the whole problem. If it costs $600m to win, then power becomes an investment and every investment needs a return. That return comes out of public funds. We don’t elect leaders, we underwrite businessmen.
DRC has the Ebola outbreak.
Uganda too has reported cases.
Now look at the map.
Rwanda borders both DRC and Uganda.
Tanzania borders both DRC and Uganda.
South Sudan borders both DRC and Uganda.
Burundi borders DRC.
Zambia borders DRC.
None of them seem to be in panic mode.
But Kenya, hundreds of kilometres away from the outbreak, is setting up quarantine centres, panicking and acting like ground zero.
Make it make sense.
Many of us warned from the beginning that William Ruto's decision to allow the Ebola facility in Laikipia was a mistake by Ruto.
Because let's be honest.
If that facility was never approved, would Kenya be talking about quarantine centres all over the country today?
DRC has experienced Ebola outbreaks for decades(over 15).
Uganda has had multiple outbreaks too(over 6).
Through all those years, Kenya relied mainly on border screening, surveillance and monitoring.
We never saw this level of panic.
So what exactly has changed?
The outbreak isn't new.
Ebola isn't new.
The only new variable is Ruto & his decision in Laikipia.
Today, it feels like the government is trying to convince Kenyans that all this panic, all these quarantine centres and all these preparations are proof that the Laikipia facility was necessary.
To many of us, it looks like the opposite.
It looks like Kenya is creating problems it never had to justify a decision that should never have been made.
Something doesn't add up.
This is the reason why there is a negative correlation between the amount of housework a woman has to do and her libido.
If you take on the role of a child in a relationship, you can't expect to be desired like a man.