Dismissive avoidants don't want to fix things. They want to keep you in a cycle where they can do whatever they want, then make you the problem when you speak up for yourself.
You are supposed to be triggered when someone mistreats, lies to, or disrespects you. You can heal to lessen the intensity of that trigger, but having a reaction to poor treatment means your body is alive, alert, and reminding you that you deserve better.
don't ever feel bad about moving on & living yo life. people be out here living double lives & want you to be solid. do you & don't wait on nobody.
People get so caught up in the shame of being called out on something, that they make the situation ten times bigger than what it had to be. Life could be so simple if accountability was normalized. You did a thing I didn't like. I named it. You acknowledge/apologize. We move on
Give yourself some extra love right now. You been dealing with so much and thuggin it out no matter how tough life gets. You going through shit nobody sees. You deserve peace too.
It is not bad to change prayers from “if he’s not for me remove him from my life” to “Lord, I want him, but not just as he is. If he is meant for me, shape him and shape me so we meet each other in the way You designed. Align his heart with Yours, and mine as well.”