Nick Chng

Studying fake CS @ NTU

[chincheto pirata somali @wikipistacho]

el rageo de fibonacci

[1v9.GG @1v9GG_]

😭😭

[predo @P3droHB_]

Once, my psychologist told me "People can understand your pain, your traumas, and where they come from, and still find your actions unacceptable. Your trauma doesn't justify your mistake, it only explains it."

[Anish Moonka @anishmoonka]

When someone teaches you something you didn't ask to learn, your brain reacts like it's in physical pain. UCLA scientists watched it happen on brain scans in 2003. The same wiring that fires when you stub your toe also fires when someone treats you like you need fixing.

Naomi Eisenberger and Matthew Lieberman ran the study and published it in Science. The brain region is the dorsal anterior cingulate cortex, which is just the fancy name for your main pain alarm. It doesn't care whether the threat is a hot stove or a friend telling you how to live.

A neuroscientist named David Rock built a framework around this in 2008. Five things make the brain feel safe in social moments: status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness, and fairness. Take away any of those and the alarm fires. Rock wrote that one of the easiest ways to dent someone's status is to give them advice they didn't ask for. Even hinting that they're doing something wrong is enough.

When people are told what to do, they often do the opposite, even when the advice was good. The psychologist Jack Brehm noticed this in 1966, and sixty years of follow-up have confirmed it. The brain is trying to keep your life feeling like your own.

Close friends cut each other off with unsolicited advice in about 70% of supportive conversations, often before the friend has even finished explaining the problem. That number comes from a 2016 study by Bo Feng and Eran Magen in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. The closer the friendship, the worse it gets. And the advice tends to make them more stressed, more depressed, and more lonely, not less.

Giving advice gives the giver a sense of power, even when nobody asked for it. Michael Schaerer and his co-authors, working across Harvard, Duke, INSEAD, USC, and Singapore Management, published this in 2018 after four experiments with about 700 people. People who chase power volunteer advice more often than others. Whether the student actually improves is a side effect, if it happens at all.

So when you feel the urge to teach somebody who never asked, that urge is mostly about you. You walk away feeling a little more powerful. They walk away feeling like they were just told they can't run their own life. Most uninvited teaching is one person's ego dressed up as kindness.

[Skyler @StanNajimi]

heartbreaking: the worst person you know caused the best domino effect in your life

[こまもか🦊 @Comamoca_]

家帰ってPC起動したらこれ

[Stefan @schteppe]

C returning the 8th element of an array with a length of 5

[yifei e/λ (meetmeinshibuya june 28) @yifever]

there are exactly three types of foreigners in Japan. you're either horny, weeb, or singaporean

[Arika @Arikalabs]

declaring a triple pointer in C is just admitting you have completely lost control of the software architecture

[Allie ✞ @allie__voss]

I say thank you AI not because it is human, but because I am

[Fortnite @Fortnite]

Here to put on a stellar performance ☄️

VTuber Hoshimachi Suisei is coming to Fortnite on March 12!

[vera. 🇧🇷🇪🇸🇲🇽🇨🇴 @furinacunt]

Is ChatGPT down for anyone else? I’m the lead writer of Wuthering Waves and need to write the storyline for the next patch.

[JOON @jojoon02]

Hmm. maybe I’m the problem...

[I DON'T KICK PREGNANT DOGS @HANGALLRAPISTS]

this pfp is making me laugh so fucking hard why would you make this your pfp

[Coolchou Zhao @CoolchouZhao]

here's ~creeku ~creeku animated!
hair physics was a sesh to do this time

[丸の内二郎系屋台さん @marunojiroukei]

Monsterやべぇえ！！
飲むだけで白人になっちゃったよ！！
これだったらAgarthaに入ることができるんだ！すごい！