draco wasn't and will never be abused by lucius and narcissa. the malfoys are fiercely loving and codependent on eachother, so it's inaccurate to think draco was brainwashed by them to be a bigot or a death eater.
the “neville could’ve been the chosen one” thing drives me insane bc that requires voldemort to be a completely different person. his hubris is his biggest flaw: HE chooses harry bc harry is a halfblood like him. the only equal voldemort can imagine is someone who mirrors himself