nadhrahmk

[nadhrahmk @nadhrahmk]

Summary of my wedding day:

[nadhrahmk @nadhrahmk]

Saw my bride from pkp years dah 2 orang anak dah 🥹

[nadhrahmk @nadhrahmk]

My theory is beranak gomen is ok je as long as bukan hospital lama. Survey lah siap2 hospital mana yang ada 4 katil tu kira ok lah. Kalau yang 12 katil tu jenuh nak berjalan pergi toilet kalau dapat katil jauh, kalau tengah dalam toilet baby nangis memang tak perasan.

[Tatty H. @tattyhassan]

Bijak pilihan ni.

Kawan i cakap, bersalin kat mana mana pun tetap sakit. Baik focus yang lepas bersalin. So ambil la 20k tu buat gi confinement center ke hire CL tiptop ke kan hshshs.

[nadhrahmk @nadhrahmk]

@n_azzurajafri Kalau snowcap macam takde je yang elok tak melorot 😂 sebabtu biasa pakai inner neck je kalau perlu, lain memang pakai serkup budak sekolah tu aje luls

[nadhrahmk @nadhrahmk]

Not bad actually. Ada jumpa tepung pelita 2 ketul RM4

[ricebunny @fatyhax]

Tepung pelita paya jaras naik harga every year. Dari RM 4 naik RM 4.50 then RM 5. This year? RM6

[nadhrahmk @nadhrahmk]

Pastu plan nak stop beranak 35yo tapi nak anak 5 orang. By right this year kena start pregnant dah hahahahah

[nadhrahmk @nadhrahmk]

Side this brother jugak. Tapi masih takut nak beli rumah sebab belum dapat seru nak settle down kat mana. Dah plan nak kena decide nak settle down kat mana paling lambat 40yo. So ada lagi 6-7 years to job hopping luls.

[Afif | Programmer dad 🇲🇾🤲🏻🇵🇸 @afifsohaili]

Disebabkan dah dekat 1k likes, kita kena cerita jugalah serba sedikit. Lepas ni jangan like dah penattt mengarang.

Aku beli subsale condo di Cengal Condo, Bandar Sri Permaisuri, Cheras, KL tahun 2016 dgn harga RM420k (loan bulan2 dlm RM1600++). Unit tu fully renovated dah cantik dan neighborhood Bandar Sri Permaisuri mmg selesa, everything walking distance termasuk both KTM dan LRT. Mmg berbaloi. Time ni belum kahwin lagi, isteri skrg pun belum muncul dlm hidup, tapi fikir-fikir, aku kerja software dev, job opportunities banyak di KL, so kemungkinan besar tak akan lari jauh dari KL even lepas kahwin pun.

<insert directed by Robert B. Weide meme tididi-dud-didu>

Ada dua silap di sini:
1. Beli sebelum kahwin sbb kalau nak settle down kenalah tengok situasi dgn partner
2. Cengal Condo ni leasehold, waktu nak beli tu terfikir jugak pasal ni tapi sbb beli niat nak duduk kan? 92y later I'm dead anyway dont care about the leasehold.

Kenal isteri hujung 2016 dan kahwin Disember 2017. Dapat kunci 2017. Sempat duduk rumah tu 8 bulan (Dis 2017-Aug 2018). Lepas tu isteri (dentist) first posting dkt Seremban (mintak KL tak dapat). So kitorang pindah keluar dari kondo tu 😭 dan menyewa dekat Seremban. Aku ulang-alik kerja KL. Kondo tu aku bagi sewa dgn harga RM1400 saja (standard rate situ). Kewangan aku tiris lebih kurang RM400 every month utk cover loan and maintenance.

Time isteri dapat permanent offer, dia cuba apply mintak balik ke KL, masih berharap dapat duduk kondo tu balik, tapi KL tak dapat, Negeri Sembilan pun tak dapat, dapat placement di Kedah tahun 2021. Aku pulak kerja fully-remote sejak awal Covid, so point asal "opportunities software dev only in KL" waktu beli kondo tu dah tak valid. Skrg dah boleh duduk mana-mana saja sbb remote opportunities ada insyaaAllah. So kitorang pindah ke Kedah dan menyewa. Makin jauh harapan nak duduk kondo tu.

Tahun 2022 time wife pregnant 2nd child, rezeki kitorang jumpa rumah semi-d setingkat 40x80 kaki luas nak mampos tapi harga RM330k saja (long live Kedah rumah murah). Kitorang rembat la apa lagi. Dekat situ aku tahu aku dah takkan balik ke kondo KL tu aku lagi dah. So time tu aku decide utk stop ketirisan dalam bajet aku, ataupun dalam loghat Kedah kami panggil "cut loss".

2023, aku try search market rate jualan Cengal Condo berapa. Max cuma RM399k kat Mudah (waktu aku beli rumah tu RM420k, ada listing lain jual sampai RM450k). Aku reach out to agents, semua pun kata susah nak jual RM400k. Puncanya?
1. Housing prices lepas covid mmg jatuh.
2. Kondo naik mcm cendawan lepas hujan especially dekat area tu. Kenapa orang nak beli leasehold subsale condo at RM400k kalau boleh beli new condo at RM400k in the same neighborhood? Classic supply and demand. Korang yang dah terbeli kondo tu, kalau kondo baru naik kat area korang, terimalah realiti yang kondo korang mungkin akan turun harga.

So, aku pun turun KL pergi kondo aku dan bagitau current tenant yang aku nak jual kondo tu. Tenant aku ni family. Husband & wife maybe 50+yo. Anak ada yang dah kerja and kahwin pun. Diorang dah selesa menetap situ sbb kondo tu selesa, best dan tenang (which was why I bought the condo in the first place anyway. Sebelum aku beli kat situ, aku menyewa bilik bujang kat kondo tu 2 tahun and suka gila vibe kondo tu).

Belum jumpa buyer lagi pun time bagitau tenant tu, tapi aku nak notify diorang awal so that they can slowly prepare to cari rumah lain, move out.

So here's kepada team penyewa, this is a reality check for you:
1. You're in your 50s just like my ex-tenant.
2. You dah selesa dekat rumah sewa tu just like my ex-tenant.
3. Your payment cantik, rumah terjaga, tak buat masalah, just like my ex-tenant.

In your mind, tak buat masalah mesti la boleh duduk lama kan? Tapi landlord datang ckp nak jual/tak nak sambung kontrak/nak buat stor/nak bagi skandal dia duduk/whatever reason dan suruh kau keluar. What will you do?

In my tenant's case, they'd rather buy the house from me rather than moving out. Loan terpaksa apply under nama anak cos i'm pretty sure at 50+yo they'd probably be getting only very short tenure loans yang monthly payment confirm tinggi gila.

After negotiations, aku direct jual kondo tu RM380k without agent. Lepas settle loan and bayar lawyer, ada la lebihan dalam RM5k+ saja kot. Ya, aku jual kondo tu dalam rugi. Tapi ketenangan yang aku dapat bila free-kan benda tu dari monthly commitment aku: PRICE-friggin'-LESS. Yes, I wish I'd done some things differently but hey, hindsight is always 20/20. Generally tho, no penyesalan whatsoever.

So itulah cerita aku. Lepas tengok penyewa aku terpaksa beli rumah aku at 50+yo, aku bertambah yakin yang aku kena beli rumah yang aku nak settle down in early.

Beli rumah ni juga advantage sbb kau bebas nak buat apa saja dgn rumah kau. e.g. Aku suka rumah minimalist and floating furnitures utk bagi luas anak2 nak berlari & senang nak bagi robot vacuum lalu, tapi kalau rumah orang kau nak pasang mcm mana?

Waktu aku menyewa dekat Seremban & Gurun, kitorang jaga rumah tu elok-elok satu paku/drill pun tak pernah pakai, so terpaksa beli bulky furnitures kat atas lantai. Lepas beli rumah sendiri, aku pasang floating tv cabinet, floating toiletries holders, floating book shelves, floating towel racks, floating clothes drying rack. Ingat nak pasang floating iron board pulak. Sebab rumah sendiri kan? Nak paku apa paku je lah. That freedom is priceless, man.

So yes, team beli rumah utk duduk ftw. Sekian cerpen sejam.

[nadhrahmk @nadhrahmk]

Haha actually kan when I was sahm dulu kurang dah nafsu membeli sebab tau takde duit. Then start kerja balik kemain parcel sampai rumah 😌

[Tatty H. @tattyhassan]

Haritu borak dengan husband i pasal setengah suami bagi 100% gaji dekat wife untuk manage household expenses &amp; duit belanja harian etc.

I cakap kat dia, kalau dia buat macam tu, kitaorang berdua mungkin akan kebulur sebab i akan guna untuk beli barang mengarut kat shopee 🙂

[nadhrahmk @nadhrahmk]

Finally kira total draping plus gaji tahun ni, and still takyah bayar zakat. That's how low my income is 😂 Goal tahun 2026 is nak bayar zakat 💪🏼

[Megha @megha_lilly]

I don’t support sleep training which requires leaving your kids to cry alone in their rooms. But I do support sleep training which means everyone brushes their teeth and gets into pjs by 8pm and then all the lights are off and we’re in bed. Doesn’t matter if we’re lying there awake or screaming. Kids get into the routine and within a few days start falling asleep by that time without issues. Children need discipline and routine. The opposite of “sleep training” isn’t chaos and letting kids decide when they “want” to fall asleep.

[nadhrahmk @nadhrahmk]

Tengok video lama Ayden bersemangat rasa nak start balik activities macam dulu.

[𝓟𝓮𝓷𝓷𝔂 𝓕𝓸𝓻 𝓤𝓻 𝓣𝓱𝓸𝓽𝓼 ☙ @PenelPixie]

It's doesn't hit after your frontal lobe develops and you get sense

[AZZURA | Parenting and Family Psychology @n_azzurajafri]

Tak lupa juga toxic feminism yang mencambah traits narcissism dalam kalangan wanita.

Women are meant to nurture and men are meant to protect. Both are important in creating balance in family system and in return, make a better society.

Semoga ada tindakan-tindakan kecil dalam kapasiti diri sendiri yang kita boleh usahakan.

[nadhrahmk @nadhrahmk]

Beli barang kat shopee RM3.88 lepastu dapat voucher RM5 sebab dia lambat deliver 😌

[nadhrahmk @nadhrahmk]

Baru tahu Dr Fie tu geng mak2 Rumi

[nadhrahmk @nadhrahmk]

The polyphonic percetion girl be like...this is my thing

[Interesting AF @interesting_aIl]

DJs about to actually be playing an instrument

[nadhrahmk @nadhrahmk]

Baru perasan my last post on ig pun like 2 months ago. I'm impressed. But worried also 😂

[nadhrahmk @nadhrahmk]

Getting worried at myself sebab macam jarang dah record my kids nowadays. Not sure too tired ke too busy ke but i'd like to keep all those memories of them in my phone. Sebab suka je tengok balik walaupun kadang tak post pun.

[Aisehman @Aisehman]

Not just Muslim-on-Muslim violence, but genocide.

Nak buat camana ni? Buat bising ke tak?

Mungkin ni tak sama glamer macam Palestin, sebab ni keganasan sesama Islam, tak libatkan Yahudi atau Kristian.

Lagipun, diorang ni kulit hitam, bukan kulit cerah.

https://t.co/aMeRr0jDxT

[nadhrahmk @nadhrahmk]

On things like air tumpah, rumah sepah, kaca pecah etc lah

[nadhrahmk @nadhrahmk]

What i always try to do when it's with my kids

[Kia 🧸ྀི @xevekiah]

i saw a TikTok about a girl saying how she doesn't stay mad for long because either she's going to figure it out, or there's nothing that can be done about it. and as simple as that sounds is as simple as it is really