Black people don’t hang themselves during a birthday vacation in Africa because of an argument with their white fiancé. Joe McCann murdered Ashly Robinson and then hung her lifeless body to stage a suicide. We will continue to support Ashly’s family until they receive justice, transparency, and answers.
“But women sexualise themselves”… no, men sexualise our existence.
There’s a fetish for the schoolgirl, the teacher, the secretary, the nurse, the nun, the “innocent” girl, the “experienced” woman, the boss, the assistant, the submissive, the dominant, the “barely legal,” the mother, the babysitter, the neighbour, the coworker every version of us gets turned into something sexual.
Covered? There’s a fetish. Modest? There’s a fetish. Uncovered? There’s a fetish. Even discomfort, even vulnerability is sexualised.
The same woman will be sexualised and then shamed for it in the next breath. That contradiction isn’t ours to carry.
Saying women sexualise themselves is just a way to dodge accountability because no matter what we do, you were already going to sexualise us anyway.
“Do you want kids” actually I want to be so deeply and safely inlove with a genuine, handsome, considerate, emotionally intelligent, healed provider of a man that the only feasible next option is to make him a father.
Tolerating always turns to resentment. At first, you call it patience, then love. But what it really is, is self-abandonment. Every time you swallow a boundary, excuse a pattern, or silence your discomfort, something inside you keeps score. And eventually, the bill comes due.