Built Namory after a friend asked about something I'd told her months before.
She remembered every detail. I had nothing. I didn't forget because I didn't care. I just had no system.
iOS app. Everything stays on your phone.
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Scrolled past someone's name in my contacts today.
Couldn't remember the last time we spoke. Couldn't remember what we talked about. Couldn't remember much about them at all.
Good person. Just... lost.
That's the drift. It happens slowly, then all at once.
@MufflettaPickle Forgetfulness and not caring aren't the same thing.. the fact that you're even asking means you care. The remembering part is actually the fixable one - literally what we built Namory for ✌️
I have a friend who remembers everything. Not in a creepy way but in a "you feel like the only person in the room" way.
Hadn't seen him in 4 months. 1st thing he said: asked about something I'd mentioned once, briefly, at a networking event.
Never felt more valued by a friend.
@annhybri Usually something small! The time they showed up when you didn't ask. The inside joke that makes no sense to anyone else. The details stick longer than the milestones.
Relationship Intelligence principle #2:
The people who feel most remembered aren't the ones who get congratulated on their wins.
They're the ones someone checked in on during the quiet periods.
"You've been quiet lately… you okay?" does more than any birthday message.
@sherkpremium Carrying a 20-minute conversation without knowing the name is actually the harder flex. Write down "sister's friend, bus" before you forget the details too because running into them again without a name is one thing, running into them without anything is worse 🪙
The good intentions gap: you genuinely care about someone, but your actions don't show it.
Not because you're selfish. It’s because caring alone isn't a system.
You probably already know someone like this.
They remember what you told them three months ago. They check in during your quiet periods. They make you feel like you're not just a name in their phone.
That's RQ in action.
EQ (emotional intelligence) became mainstream in the 90s. IQ has been discussed for a century.
But there's no well-known name for: being someone people feel truly remembered by.
I've been calling it Relationship Intelligence (RQ).
Here's what it actually means 🧵
The thing about RQ: unlike IQ, it's almost entirely learnable.
It's not a personality trait. It's a set of habits.
Most people with high RQ have, consciously or not, built systems to support those habits.