Birds only sing when they feel safe, thus signaling on a deep, cellular level that you are safe too. Their frequencies calm the nervous system, lowering cortisol and anxiety. Birdsong is nature’s medicine.
A lot of men create enemies by telling the truth in the most humiliating way possible. If you want influence inside real hierarchies, learn how to disagree without making the other person feel reduced, because once ego gets involved, people stop responding to logic and start defending pride.
Turn Inward, Ruthlessly
Stop looking outside for who you are.
The Key is not in a partner, guru, job, or social media echo chamber.
Close your eyes. Feel your breath. Listen for the part of you that doesn’t need fixing that’s where it begins.
Nataka nikukumbushe kitu!
Your high frequency is your shield. Your self-love is your sword.
Your clarity is your armor.
Don't lower yourself to be understood.
Don't turn off your light to avoid disturbing.
Never let the limited vision of others cloud your own perception.
Even if the whole world is against you, stay true to your essence.
Normalize being very direct, very straight to the point and very assertive. A surprising amount of tension in adult life exist because people avoid saying what they actually mean.
Evlada küsülmez, evlatla dertleşilmez. Evlat, çevreye kötülenmez. Evladın sırrı açık edilmez. Evlat, sizin dert ortağınız veya psikoloğunuz değildir. Anne babaya, baba anneye kötülenmez. Evlada travmalar ve kötü bir geçmiş anlatılmaz. Evladınızı rahat bırakın.
The most manipulative but effective thing I’ve ever done in my life was when I read an article about how children moderate their behavior to protect their self-identity, so if a child believes he’s smart, for example, he’ll intentionally study and try to do well to protect his image of himself.
Anyway, I would pull kids aside with behavioral issues at church and tell them, “David (obviously fake name), you’re such a kind person and such a good listener. I can see that in you. Thank you for always listening.” “Little Annie, thank you for taking such good care of the babies around you. You’re going to be such a good big sister. Can you be in charge of watching Sally?”
They would ALWAYS behave afterward. ALWAYS. Worked like a charm. Morally questionable because it wasn’t initially true, but I kind of willed it into existence. Tbf, I did think that they had that in them or I wouldn’t have tried.
Will publish longitudinal results of this method once my kid is old enough to report back.
“Do not be too moral. You may cheat yourself out of much life so. Aim above morality. Be not simply good; be good for something.”
— Henry David Thoreau