Stop getting married.
Don't maintain children you don't have access to.
Do not give a parent access to a child they are not maintaining.
Do not agree to be a housewife if he refuses to give you an employment contract with a set income.
Do not agree to maintain a housewife unless she signs an employment contract with responsibilities.
Have an intense discussion with someone you like about whether they are traditional or modern, and agree on what works.
Do not agree to pay damages for a child you decided to mutually conceive with a woman.
If the father is a good nurturer, give him the same privileges as a mother.
Move in with your romantic partner, to save on costs.
Don't let religion or culture financially abuse you. The ppl who created that stuff were not trying to financially oppress you.
Maintenance for a child can be money or goods or services. An unemployed parent can offer the same services as a coach, babysitter, teacher, au pair, tutor, etc & save you money.
Be practical. Choose a partner that wants both of you to win. Don't let society or family or weird beliefs bring conflict into a beautiful relationship.
Meditate. Pray. Consult. And choose the right path.
Penuelism is Consciousness.
I was listening to a clip where King Misuzulu addresses young girls.
He said that he won't choose a wife amongst them because to him, they are daughters, he is the same age as their mothers. He further stated, to those 16yrs old and below in age, that if any men approached them with mjolo nonsense , they should tell the men to come and speak to him and he will deal with them.
That is fatherly, leadership!
Bayede Dawg!!🙌🏽🙇🏽
@Mavooo1@Zah_Zungu@Stimela_Mgazi Ay guys but she only mentioned the municipality to let him know that actually the place is not in Durban but KwaDukuza?
Poverty conditions your mind to a life of lack and limitation. You don't think, 'there are options.' Instead, you exist in a state of 'there are no options' until you learn otherwise, if at all. The shame that comes with it strips you of your voice and silences you.