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xe/e/they/it || autistic+adhd || 30s || proud self-narrating zoo exhibit

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@Mustache_Mutt I was just doing a search for her name because I had a bad experience with her and her office and was reminded because of a bigger account posting about her, too.

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@taikawaitittes @testosteronejew @BuriedHistory77 My experience wasn't quite as bad, but I had what I now know were serious complications that her office downplayed at the time, convincing me that it was "fine". It took months for my incisions to stop coming open and spitting stitches.

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@NeolithicSheep When I saw you tweeting about your complications and you said you went to a surgeon in NC, I knew it had to be her. My surgery was in '18 and I had an extremely similar experience to you.
I felt like it was my fault, like I failed at healing, so I didn't talk about it.

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I haven't known how to respond. I am, generally, fine with my results - mostly thrilled to not have breasts anymore. But the post-op experience was horrendous.

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This must have taken off. On the 21st I received a call and email from her office asking for feedback of how satisfied I was with my care.

They ignored me when things were going wrong and never reached out for any follow-up in the 4 years since, until days after his post.

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@jeryncambrah @autienelle I've realized my natural expressions and inflections don't always come across the way I feel like they do in the moment. (It's not something I really try to change, it just gave me some context for why I was having these social clashes.)

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@jeryncambrah @autienelle When I saw a few candid videos of myself, I realized that even though I didn't feel like I was acting angry, I was often looking and sounding way more intense than I thought I was. Like, to the point where if I didn't know myself, I would think that person in the video is upset.

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My biggest scarred parts are where the incisions not only opened up but spilled out some of the fibrous internal tissue or layers. This happened on both sides - yellow soggy something escaping from incisions that almost healed and then pulled apart.

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I had something similar (though much less severe) happen after my top surgery with a prominent surgeon in North Carolina, complete with me desperately sending photos of large areas of wound dehiscence (incisions coming apart) and getting nothing better than a shrug as response.

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My left nipple is a misshapen mess - apparently she called for someone to re-insert my nipple piercing jewelry to have something to "anchor" it during surgery - and my incisions are a wide band of gnarled scars because of how many times the edges opened.

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@drdevonprice It has definitely been the pattern for me that cis women have been much, much worse about my gender than cis men. I've had some thoughts on why cis men are much more eager to accept me as a man than cis women are to accept me as not-a-woman, but I'll maybe expand on Tumblr.

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if there is anyone here who wants to keep in touch or whatever, dm me and i will share some contact info, otherwise, ✌

[Devon Price @drdevonprice]

okay here is the litmus test. is the "worst" thing youve ever done both a huge violation of all commonly held social laws and also borderline sad and pathetic. are there actually multiple events that come to mind. if yes you got that dog in you

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@dudeimreading @mightbeautistic @drdevonprice I'm American (Midwest/Great Lakes) and have had people insist I must be Australian (or Canadian, or English, or "from somewhere"). Have definitely gotten the "what's that accent" question plenty of times!

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I know they make unscented deodorants, but what I need is specifically a fragrance-free antiperspirant, and there are now no (0, none) options left at the local Target.

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Both of my go-to fragrance-free antiperspirants have recently reformulated to add fragrance, without any notice on the label.
So heads-up, I guess, if you use Mitchum "unscented" gel or Dry Idea "unscented", be warned they both contain parfum. #ActuallyAutistic #ScentSensitivity

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I feel like I'm being a real weirdo about this but I am frustrated that they keep reformulating my "safe" products and leaving me fewer and fewer options.
(I know "may your favorite products be 'new and improved'" is an autistic curse but man am I feeling it now)