I heard a therapist say, “Your feelings are always valid, your behavior is not.” She explained by saying feel what you feel BUT you need to be accountable for what you do as a result of those feelings.
One of the main reasons I stopped oversharing is because certain friendships and relationships lack substance, so they utilize your business as topic of discussion. I value my privacy, and I don’t want anyone who hasn’t been told about my business to know anything.
You can tell when a group of people have been talking about you and hyping each others animosity up towards you, because they all start treating you in the same weird way at the same time.
Tolerating always turns to resentment. At first, you call it patience, then love. But what it really is, is self-abandonment. Every time you swallow a boundary, excuse a pattern, or silence your discomfort, something inside you keeps score. And eventually, the bill comes due.