A harsh truth:
Most people don’t actually want success.
They want the applause that comes with it.
The moment hard work, discipline, and sacrifice show up, they disappear.
In Nigeria, I don't think we're doing enough yet.
Many young Nigerian men grow up hearing phrases like "man up," "men don't cry," or "be strong." While resilience is important, these messages often discourage them from expressing pain, seeking help, or talking about their struggles.
As a result, emotional distress may show up as anger, substance abuse, withdrawal, violence, depression, or even suicide rather than open conversations about mental health.
We need more safe spaces in our homes, schools, workplaces, churches, mosques, and communities where young men can speak without fear of being judged or seen as weak.
Supporting men's mental health doesn't take anything away from women—it simply acknowledges that everyone deserves to be heard, supported, and helped when they are struggling. Sometimes, a listening ear can save a life.