"Siapa saja yang berhutang lalu berniat tidak mau melunasinya, maka dia akan bertemu Allah (pada hari kiamat) dalam status sebagai pencuri." (HR. Ibnu Majah no. 2410, shahih).
Patriarchy rooted so bad that we started comparing ourselves to other women for a mere male attention. No matter how pretty we are, there will always be a question, “What does she have that I don’t, that makes him chose her instead of me, despite whatever we have gone through?”
I hope we all healed from the wounds this world caused us.
the idea of dating a much older man who’s “mengayomi” sounds sweet in theory, until you realize it often comes with unsolicited lectures & subtle power trips.
Dan hati-hati juga sama narasi “sama-sama berjuang dari nol” karena kalo prosesmu kebetulan lebih cepet dari cowokmu, fragile masculinity-nya bakal pull you down to his level dengan berbagai cara (playing victim, guilt tripping, dll)