Nicolas Gurvits

Break free from trauma & become your baddest self.
Gain awareness. Conquer your fears. Develop your full potential.

[Nicolas Gurvits @NGurvits]

@Theholisticpsyc Nothing is wrong with you. You simply adapted to survive to the environment & conditioning that you were born into.

Some of the habits that you picked up to survive along the way no longer serve your best interest.

Unlearn and recreate your best self.

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

A smear campaign is like a social filtering system. The big reveal. And ironically it can actually benefit the target in this way.
The people trying to determine truth are operating from a values-based framework — they want to know what actually happened before they decide anything. Those are generally the people worth keeping.

The people reading dominance signals are essentially operating like a narcissist themselves, whether they are or not. They’re not asking “what’s true,” they’re asking “who’s winning.” And the target who won’t perform a counterattack looks like a loser to them — because performing is the only language they understand.

What that actually reveals is that they were never safe people to begin with. The smear campaign doesn’t corrupt them. It just brings what was already there to the surface.

And the other narcissists reading the non-response as weakness — that one is almost poetic in its irony. What they’re actually watching is someone who has fully detached from the narcissist’s reality. That’s not weakness. That’s the one thing a narcissist genuinely cannot do. They are enslaved by how they’re perceived. The target just… isn’t. That gap in comprehension is enormous. They can’t model it as anything other than submission because genuine indifference to their opinion is outside their experiential range entirely.

The non-response IS the power move. It just doesn’t look like one to people who only recognize power as aggression.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

When someone can't control you, they'll try to control what other people think of you.

This is when you set clear boundaries.

How To Not Take Emotional Bait:

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

If they accuse you of something so far out of your
character, it's a confession.

Pay attention to projections, they hold deep truths.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

It's not worth the cortisol spike to argue with someone with high narcisstic traits. Their narratives don't reflect reality. Let your silence confirm you've unsubscribed from their delusion.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Wanting to self isolate is the first sign you're waking up. The desire to disconnect from a dysfunctional world is the highest form of emotional intelligence.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

How to deal with someone who has a high level of narcissistic traits:

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Cortisol is highest the first 30 minutes of waking up. It can make you upset and grumpy, and you don't even know why. Cortisol stimulates glucose production. Eat protein when waking up, you'll be able to emotionally regulate much better.

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

Narcissists don’t just misremember—they reconstruct reality to suit their ego and narrative. It’s not about truth; it’s about control. If the real version of events makes them look bad, vulnerable, or wrong, they’ll edit the memory—intentionally or subconsciously—until it flatters them, justifies their actions, or demonizes someone else. They’ll gaslight you with that version, acting like you’re crazy or confrontational for remembering it differently.
It’s one of their most dangerous manipulations: rewriting history and then punishing you for not living in their revision.

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

Narcissists won’t just lie about you, they will say the complete opposite of the truth. You might be one of the hardest workers and they will accuse you of being lazy to everyone they speak to. You might be one of the nicest people and they will accuse you of being mean or being a bully. They’re trying to erase the person they feel threatened by

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

Predatory Victimhood (Malignant & Covert Narcissists)
Some narcissists don’t stumble into conflict — they hunt for it. They pick a target they envy or resent, then approach under totally false and manipulative pretenses. The whole “friendly engagement” is just reconnaissance.
They’re gathering:
- your words
- your reactions
- your personality traits
- anything they can twist later
From the very first interaction , it’s a pre-planned attack pattern. The goal isn’t connection. It’s ammunition.
Once they get what they need or as much as they can that they feel they can maliciously twist into something damning, they flip the script:
You become the villain.
They become the “poor victim.”
And suddenly a person who was minding their own business gets dragged into a fabricated narrative engineered from the start to justify the narcissist’s unprovoked attack.
Predatory victimhood is not an accident.
It’s a highly malicious attack strategy.
And it starts before they ever say hello.

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

Narcissists frequently mimic people they envy, but instead of giving that person credit, admiration, or appreciation, they respond with attack, devaluation, and smear campaigns.
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[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

A narcissist’s sense of power often comes from withholding, denying, or giving on their own terms. If they gave you what you actually want without strings attached, they’d feel like they’ve lost leverage. Their control depends on keeping you in a state of need—dangling the possibility of meeting your needs but never fully allowing it.

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

I wish people understood that many with cPTSD are attempting to build skills, connection, and a life they never had. We promote this idea that they need to make a change to return to their original self, while not naming many of them don’t have a foundation to return to.

[Robert Greene @RobertGreene]

Those who make a show or display of innocence are the least innocent of all.

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

People typically don’t “go crazy” or have nervous breakdowns for no reason. The narrative of someone "going crazy" is often a tool used by abusers to deflect accountability and discredit their victim. What appears to be erratic behavior is usually a trauma response—a culmination of long-term psychological manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional abuse.
The victim may seem "unreasonable" or "unstable" because their nervous system is overwhelmed, often swinging between fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses. Abusers exploit this, painting the victim as the problem to maintain their control and avoid scrutiny. It's a cruel tactic that isolates the victim further and obscures the true cause of their distress. Recognizing this dynamic is crucial for understanding the reality of psychological abuse and offering genuine support.

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

Narcissists often use withholding tactics to assert control. By withholding important things, necessities or information, they create a power dynamic where they appear as the one in control.
When you ask or plead for what you need, they can portray you as “needy”, “annoying”, or “demanding”, flipping the situation to make you appear as the one causing an issue.
This is a form of projection. While maintaining control over you, they accuse you of being the one trying to control them.

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

Malignant narcissists often envy the traits, talents, or even the social presence of someone else, and rather than admiring or learning from that person in a healthy way, they mimic them in a predatory, parasitic fashion. Once they've copied enough — speech, style, ideas, behaviors — they try to erase the original source of their mimicry through smear campaigns, gaslighting, or social sabotage.
It’s like a psychological version of identity theft combined with character assassination. They want to be you, but they also want you gone so no one can compare them to the authentic version. Because deep down, they know they’re not the real deal — and that awareness breeds rage and resentment.
This kind of behavior is especially damaging because it’s confusing to outsiders. The narcissist may come across as charismatic or creative, while painting the true originator as “unstable,” “jealous,” or “toxic.” It’s often part of a larger pattern of social triangulation, where they build alliances by manipulating perceptions.
They aren’t just trying to imitate someone — they’re trying to replace them.

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

A narcissistic abuse tactic I call “Leapfrogging” is a form of predatory behavior where a narcissist targets someone they envy—often someone who possesses traits, status, or social capital the narcissist lacks or is threatened or envious of.
The malignant narcissist makes a conscious decision to destroy or discredit the target before initiating the friendship or connection. The entire relationship is a setup—an infiltration. They study their target, mimic their behavior, and mirror their values, all while planning their psychological ambush.
The goal is to get close enough to:
- Gain access to personal information, reputation, and influence.
- Undermine trust by spreading subtle lies or planting doubts in others.
- Erode the target’s confidence thru increased criticism
- Hijack the target’s identity or credibility.
Once the narcissist feels they’ve “absorbed” enough value from the target—or sees an opportunity to strike—they flip the narrative. The target becomes the problem: unstable, abusive, selfish, irresponsible, untrustworthy, etc. The narcissist positions themselves as the “true victim” or “better version,” effectively leapfrogging over the target’s social standing.
At its core, this is predatory envy in action—not just wanting what someone else has, but wanting to ruin them for having it.

[Lorwen Harris Nagle, PhD @LORWEN108]

People-pleasing looks like kindness.
But underneath, it’s fear.

As children, many of us learned that love was conditional. Approval came when we anticipated others’ needs. Silence or disapproval came when we expressed our own.

So we adapted.

We made ourselves easy, agreeable, and “good.”
We learned that keeping the peace felt safer than risking rejection.
But the cost was high.

In giving everyone else what they wanted, we slowly abandoned what we wanted.
Our authentic self got buried under pleasing others.

Here's the twist:

→ People-pleasing keeps us safe from conflict.
→ But it also buries our true needs and wants.

When you say “yes” while your body screams “no,” you’re not being kind — you’re reenacting an old survival pattern.

And the irony: the people you most long to connect with can’t meet you, because the real you stays hidden.

Breaking this pattern doesn’t mean becoming selfish.
It means daring to let your needs, limits, and truth come into the light.

People-pleasing isn’t kindness.
It’s self-abandonment dressed up as generosity.

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

Narcissists won’t just lie about you, they will say the complete opposite of the truth. You might be one of the hardest workers and they will accuse you of being lazy to everyone they speak to. You might be one of the nicest people and they will accuse you of being mean or being a bully. They’re trying to erase the person they feel threatened by