This paragraph by Haruki Murakami hits hard:
“Once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”
People respect you more when they don't see you often. Even parents. Trust me. It's strange how distance rearranges love, How absence restores what closeness erodes. When people are deprived of your presence, they start seeing you clearly again, not through habit but through awareness. Proximity dulls perception. Space sharpens it. That's just how the human mind works.
You don't need to be cold. Just inaccessible. Respond slower. Reveal less. Be polite, but unreadable. When people have to calculate your state, they start treating you like someone they can't afford to misread. That's how distance creates influence
Underrated life advice: Keep proof that good things happen to you. Old photos. Kind messages. Positive feedback. Notes from great days. Whatever. Store them in a single place. Call it a Rainy Day Folder. Pop it open on a bad day and watch your mood turn. It's a free reset button.
Average man finds his confidence at 35.
Average man stops caring what people think at 38.
Average man starts his next chapter at 42.
Happiness for men peaks at 45- 65.
You're not behind, bro.
You're right on time.
Pattern Recognition is the form of intelligence that causes the most stress.
You will see things that others do not.
You'll feel crazy.
Things will be *so obvious* to you, and others will just deny it.
The best thing you can do for the nation (as a hardworking Indian) is to leave India.
1) Grow your potential somewhere else. Improve your skills.
2) Send remittances back. Save INR.
3) If you scale, hire Indians. And, give them jobs.
This way you're contributing to India's rupee stability & job market.
You're not doing any favor to the nation by physically "staying". And, spending all your energy dealing with the system.
The world grows through productivity.
And productivity improves by improving your skills.
Not by displaying nationalism.
You are 100X better Indian if you remit money. And, never even visit India.
Than being a freeloader parasite, who feeds on other people's hard-work.
Overcommunicating is a form of begging. Overexplaining is a form of defending. Oversharing is a form of people-pleasing. You don't need their approval. You don't need to babysit their emotions or manage how they perceive you. Be with people who let you be your authentic self.
The older I get, the more I understand why some people slowly let go of their dreams, lose their spark, or end up feeling lost.
It’s rarely because they’re lazy, weak, or incapable.
Life has a way of wearing people down in ways that aren't always visible. Years of disappointment, heartbreak, financial stress, responsibility, rejection, grief, and unmet expectations can quietly drain the energy that once fueled them.
Some people aren't lacking ambition.
They're carrying burdens you can't see.
That's why I've learned to be slower to judge and quicker to show compassion. You never know what battles someone has fought just to make it through another day.
Sometimes the strongest people aren't the ones chasing every dream.
They're the ones who keep going even after life has given them every reason to stop.
@consistentLRS I tried that. It works with non blood relationships. Ut with blood relationship, it doesnt work. Have to fight. But without letting thrm become a victim.
The best cure for depression is having money.
Because a lot of things that make life miserable become easier when you can afford to fix them.
Bad job? Leave.
Toxic relationship? Walk away.
Health problem? Get treatment.
Need a break? Take one.
Money doesn’t solve everything. But being broke can make almost every problem feel worse.