“To be successful at anything, you don’t have to be special. You just have to be what most people aren’t: consistent, determined and willing to work for it. No shortcuts.”
— Tom Brady
SHYNESS MAKES YOU LOOK WEAK
Be arrogant. Confidence is key to everything. Social skills are important. You’re more than enough. Don’t be afraid to look stupid. Ask questions. Get what you want. Let them judge you. It’s all in your head. Speak up. Share what’s on your mind. Your opinions and preferences matter.
When you were a kid, being shy was considered something normal. But the moment you grow up, when you have ambitions, dreams to fulfill, and desires to satisfy - nobody will come and ask what you want.
👉 You must let the whole world know.
Otherwise, you’ll keep replaying scenarios in your head while lying in bed trying to fall asleep. Thoughts like, “I should’ve said this.” “I could’ve had that.” “I embarrassed myself… i feel so much shame” will consume your energy, and you’ll wake up tired and broken. You’ll visualize the life you want, wishing you could spend more time in your dreams, because the lack of inner work makes life after waking up feel wasted.
All because of one fragile obstacle: caring too much about what others think of you.
Just go do something unusual in public. Nothing bad will happen to you. Make the outside world your training ground, where there’s no Final Boss, only people passing by that you’ll probably never see again.
Opportunities will be everywhere. The people you resonate with most, the love of your life, meaning in what you do, an endless amount of interests are all on the other side of the bridge.
The only thing you need to cross it is delusional confidence, and not treating every stranger seriously with their useless opinions.
Confidence doesn't come from believing in yourself. It comes from having done the uncomfortable thing enough times that your nervous system stops flagging it as an emergency. Because nothing is actually hard, it's just unfamiliar.
Elon Musk was right, stop being patient and start asking yourself how can I accomplish my 10 year plan in 6 months. You will probably fail but you will be far ahead of the person who accepted it would take 10 years.