nikao

Taking it a day at a time
Lover of Christ ✝️
Arsenal 🔴

[toye! @iloveyoutoye]

one thing about me, i’ll communicate until i realize i’m the only one tryna make shit work. then imma fall back

[nikao @nikao_1]

Go home!!!
There is love, peace and plantain at home 😍

[Amondi @Amondi_y]

Growing older without becoming bitter about everything you've been through. Keeping your heart open while learning from life is no small achievement.

[nikao @nikao_1]

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[shadow @ascetic_shadow]

i think one’s ability to be in a healthy relationship boils down to:

1. can they self regulate?
2. can they co-regulate (hold space)?
3. do they care about their partner’s emotional states?
4. can they skillfully express their own emotional states?
5. are they prone to being manipulated by their partner’s emotional states?
6. do they manipulate their partner with their own emotional states?
7. are they in a fixed or growth relational mindset?

and that’s basically it. it’s not that one has to be perfect at all of those but there is a threshold, that depends on one’s partner, below which it will be an unhealthy downward spiral and above which it will be a mutually beneficial upward spiral. am i missing anything here?

[n 𖦹 ˖ ࣪⊹ ☁︎ ⛫ @brxfastsolstice]

She’s so right for challenging the “We don’t have sex, but we have a really healthy relationship” . This is where marriages fall apart because attraction is fluid and an offering of yourself to your partner. Your level of attractiveness includes looks but is far beyond that, because it involves your energy, how you move, how you speak, romantic efforts, submissiveness/dominance, etc… But that means being receptive to what your partner desires, and that can be in and outside the bedroom, which is where many resist and let attraction die because it may ask you to change

[nikao @nikao_1]

CONGRATULATIONS TO ME 🎊

#HallelujahChallenge

[Precious Of The Good Life ✨️😄 @Presh__Kings]

CONGRATULATIONS 🎊

#HallelujahChallenge

[nikao @nikao_1]

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[kemi @kemimarie]

because people are not yours to have and true love will honor the other persons needs, even if what they need is not you.

[ຸ @fvckfemi_]

btw, it's hard to make me feel bad about myself when i genuinely like who i am. I'll just assume you have personal issues

[🐾p3arlly 𐙚 @y0urhaunt3dgf]

The smartest people I know, who are not necessarily academically gifted possess weapons grade pattern recognition that they use mercilessly in every facet of their lives and that’s really scary

[ZeroTrace @empiremike_]

"Everything hard about your life right now is a direct result of a dream you had the courage to chase."

[Nathan ✰ @Just1Nathann_]

Sometimes, life introduces you to someone who knows exactly how to love you the way you’ve always wanted to be loved.

And just when you start believing you’ve finally found your person, distance becomes the one thing keeping you from having the life you could’ve had together.

[​𝐥𝐲𝐫𝐚 @sunnkssdseraph]

Being in a relationship means you must love someone the way they need you to, not just in the way that is comfortable for you. Because it's a reminder that love is not only about what I prefer giving, it's also about how the other person actually receives it. Real love takes effort, emotional maturity, and the willingness to meet each other halfway, not just show up when it feels easy.

[nikao @nikao_1]

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[​𝐥𝐲𝐫𝐚 @sunnkssdseraph]

I highly recommend having hobbies cause it distracts you from falling in love unnecessarily, and I have an explanation. An ideal mind always mistakes loneliness with love, but busy minds have standards, because when most of your days are filled with things like lifting, creating, reading, learning things like that, you stop chasing people for excitement, because we have a really bad habit of romanticizing every bit of attention that we get. Even if it was not not directed at us with the same intensity of intention, most of the time you are simply wanting something to do.Instead of the feel that you're confusing with wanting.And I strongly believe that best relationships are built when two complete lives meet instead of two bored people who try to become each other's hobby, the interdependence in that situation would create the pressure which finally would become the reason for the eventual breakdown.

[nikao @nikao_1]

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[Diz @adizjapalmer]

Took this after breakfast on Champions League final day, on way to the screening at the o2

[nikao @nikao_1]

As a non catholic, this is one thing on my bucket list

[Hasan🇬🇧🇵🇰 @curryinahurry22]

Therapy is too expensive so at this point a Catholic church confession will be seeing me soon 🫡

[` @schiz04renic]

the eight best doctors are sunshine, water, air, nature, rest, exercise, diet, and laughter

[nikao @nikao_1]

- Sleep
- Watch Arsenal highlights
- Read a book
- Call my guys

[𝗟𝗔𝗗£𝗛€𝗥$£𝗟𝗙 @Thebiglade]

People who don't drink and smoke, how do you manage stress??

[ref @xfilestt]

"you're so quiet" bro we have nothing in common

[Xen @lawrenx_]

since I moved to Lagos

I never hear sound of birds since

What a nature free state.

So bad, damn.

[nikao @nikao_1]

God shey i never big pass who dey attract people that find the need microanalyse the smallest conversation 😭