Human approval is unstable. Someone may praise you today and criticize you tomorrow, so it's wiser to anchor your life in deeper principles than in other people's opinions.
I do personally see it as a gift when someone starts to push me away because it really is a call for me to take a pause & remember my own desires & priorities - are they nourished here? Do they have room to breathe here? If no, then I’m grateful to be pushed away ♾️
Dave Chappelle said "i got paid 25K when i was 17 and was scared to walk around with it in a backpack cause i never had something somebody wanted. i know they would kill me if they knew i had this money. now imagine having a pussy." Give this man a medal.
If you love someone because they love you, that is empathy. If you love someone for their beauty, that is attraction. If you love someone for what they offer, that is interest.
If you love someone for their kindness, that is admiration. But when you cannot fully explain why you love them, only that your heart does, that is love.
ngl i hate when my michael jackson obsession is re-triggered bc i genuinely cannot be normal about him and i actually do not enjoy being parasocial about nobody but i physically cannot control that he consumes my every thought until my hyper-fixation calms back down 😭